| I wouldn't totally ignore all those strategies: they're a good way of faking alpha.
For a little background, all our social instincts are calibrated to survive in stable tribes of about 100-150 people. ie, in your whole life, back in the day, you'd never meet more than 150 people!
Back in a stone-age tribe, social status was based on real things, like how many allies you had, and how good you were at things like hunting and fighting other tribes with spears and clubs and shit. Whatever social status you ended up at, it was important to keep acting according to that status, or somebody would come and kick your ass. Studies of the remaining stone-age tribes in places like the Amazon have shown that AMOGging your actual tribal leader is a pretty good way to end up dead, so we've evolved some fairly strong instincts against doing it.
Now, because of this, whenever we meet new people, we look for indicators in their behaviour that tell us what their social status is. They will reliably broadcast low, medium or high social status, even though if they just broadcast high status all day they'd be more successful. This is because meeting new people was quite uncommon thousands of years ago, and because broadcasting fake social status to your tribe leader's cousin from another valley was a good way to get murdered.
So, the key is to retrain your brain into thinking that you are the alpha male of your non-existent tribe. This is what inner game is all about. And one of the best ways to retrain yourself is not affirmations, or hypnosis, or any of that shit.
It's going out and being an Alpha Male.
If you have to use fake routines and shit to trick people into thinking you're an alpha male, then that's fine, but just keep in mind why you are doing it: you're not trying to trick them, you're trying to trick your own reptile instincts.
Likewise, any time you get AMOGged, in any social circumstance, and you don't do anything about it, that's a very bad thing for your inner game. I don't care if some guy is tailgating you on the highway, and you feel like you're getting in his way, so you start speeding when you wouldn't have otherwise. Don't let it happen! Ever!
Being the AMOG isn't about club routines, it's a way of life. You have to believe that if the apocalypse came tomorrow, and we all went back to the stone age, you would be able to fight to take your rightful place as tribal leader! You are Bill Clinton with a big fuckoff spear, in a smelly bearskin telling the Bush tribe to get their own fucking valley! Yup, if 150 people would follow you around and take orders from you after a nuclear war or zombie apocalypse, then you've got your inner game under control.
Before I leave, I'll add one more story. This one is really good.
Some evolutionary psychology researchers wanted to pin down just how females decide who is a high status male and who isn't, and they had a theory that smell could have something to do with it.
So what they did was they recruited the MIT Model Railroad Club. These guys are the biggest nerds you've ever met, no social skills at all. Google a photo of them; I doubt they could even get into a club.
However, the researchers didn't ask them to interact with women. Instead they had them wear tshirts, nonstop for two days, and then put them in a ziploc bag. The researchers then took the smelly tshirts and had women sniff test them and decide which had the best body odor.
You can probably guess who smelled best: the club president, closely followed by the club executives.
So if you teach your brain that you're the AMOG, not only will your game improve, but you'll smell better too.
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