A lot of guys use texting as a way of building attraction (thru teasing, etc.). My approach is different. Though I text a lot, I rarely try to ‘achieve’ anything thru it. I focus instead on:

1) being brief & matter-of-fact.

2) asking fairly basic questions & giving honest, direct answers.

3) not trying to get anything from her.

I’ve found that this approach to work quite well for me; in most cases, women end up taking the initiative.

I’ve included an example to illustrate.

NOTE: The following story happened several years ago. I ended up saving the exchange for posterity. There are some things I’d do differently now.

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It started one morning when I woke up and had this text message on my phone:

Her: R u awake? This is Sarah.

At the time, I had a number of “Sarah’s” on my phone, but not this one.
Trying to jog my memory, I text back:

Me: Hey, just got ur text. What’s up?

Her: Time to go running. What does your schedule look like hottie?

Me: Not sure, lots of options. What were you thinking?

Her: When can u hit the pavement?

Me: Are you asking me out?

Her: To run, u said u could when I met u. Do u remember me?

At this point, I run a quick search on my email inbox, using her phone number.
It turns out I contacted her on a dating site, but that was somet time ago.

Me: Um I think you might have the wrong guy.

Her: Nope. We talked at Club x, a while ago. I had the twin.

Haven’t been to Club x in ages.

I’m tempted at this point to tease and respond with something like “I remember the twin, she was hot, but I don’t remember you.” But here, again, is where my lazier approach is different…

Me: How long ago was that?

Her: 2 or 3 months. U would remember if u saw a pic.

Me: I’m sorry, I get a lot of women texting me, but I’m usually better with faces.

Her: I know what u mean, I get a lot of women texting me as well.

I figure she’s just being facetious (little did I know she was actually being serious; see below).

Me: LOL I’m sure ur cool, if I gave u my #. Thing is, I’m seeing a few women casually and only capable of a purely physical relationship at the moment. Still interested?

Her: To be honest, I’m really only into women but tolerate men bc my girlfriend likes them. Maybe if u can us a pic I can run it past her and we can plan something. Still interested?

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-Dan

P.S. A friend of mine refers to this approach (half jokingly) as ‘lazy game.’

At its most negative spin, lazy game is where you accidentally DHV yourself by simply being too lazy to do all the AFC things that turn women off. A needy guy texts/calls too much, is too available, beats around the bush, and eventually ends up begging with women to sleep with him. A man who practices lazy game does none of these things, because he is in fact too lazy.

At its most positive spin, lazy game is about realizing you have more important things to worry about than chasing after a bunch of women, since that would require a lot of work on his part. He has goals, he has priorities, and most of all, he has options.

Well, I’d love to talk more about lazy game but I just don’t want to do all that work right now.