6 steps to obtaining what you want from the girl you want

Ok im writing this article to breakdown the 6 steps I see in most common situations relating to attraction and pursuit.
The way im going to do this is to treat it like a journey par se. Roll with it, it may help you understand the stages as we go along.
I'm going to use an example as I talk which is a situation I have been involved in recently involving a girl who has a bf but he treats her like crap. This is an effective example to use as we have all been there before and even if she didn't have the bf there would be a different obstacle to replace him.


1. The Ignition - The initial spark that starts it all

Ok everyone knows or should know what this is, when you walk into a room and one person just captivates your attention or your chatting to girls freely all night but there was one girl you'd met earlier who you cant stop thinking bout. Either she the hottest or prettiest or just the single person you found most attractive that night. That's "The Ignition", once you have found the girl that makes you think about her after you stopped talking to her.

i.e. I recently met a girl (L) watching the Football (Carling Cup final) in my local sports bar. She was nice I was hammered and didn't remember much about her.
A week later said girl approaches me outside another bar and starts talking full of confidence looking straight into my eyes smiling and looking gorgeous, it also helps that she is an underwear model who aspires to be a successful glamour model. That was "The Ignition", when a girl approaches you looking all pretty as hell, you start to question just how magnetic you are to women. She's a minimum 8 in most guys eyes and she has the nicest body and build going just to illustrate. I knew after talking to her that I was interested and there was a mutual attraction / connection.


2. The Drive - The reason behind the approach and chase

So you've sparked with someone, you may ignite with several people you may ignite with hundreds of people. I personally find a lot of girls attractive and make sure that when I talk to them they will always be left in "The Ignition" phase unless I want to pursue to "The Drive" stage.
This is where you accept the fact you have an interest in said girl and are determined to follow it up. I meet women who I like but there's no real motivation to follow up other than to maybe have a date or a one night stand etc. When you know you enjoy time with the target "The Drive" is the next logical step. Basically like 2 people coasting along in a soft top, your getting a feel for the road, a feel for the car and a good view of the scenery flying by. At this stage there is no real sex just Kino play to make sure you enforce your viewpoint that you desire the girl sexually etc.

i.e. So after talking to L via text for a bit and after the initial ignition started things moving I decided I would make a few hints that she's the sort of girl that I would be interested in getting involved with and show her that basically I think what I offer would be quite complimentary to her current lifestyle etc. I'm basically doing the ground work so she see's me as one of the most viable suitors etc.


3. The Roadblock - The point at which you must accept the obstacle in front of you

As you start "The Drive" and now she has recognised that you have a motivation when talking to her, you will soon be nearing "The Roadblock". This can be a variety of things, but basically she will drop a bomb on you to test your resolve. For example bf, ex bf still in love with, clingy friend, cock blocking friends, family problems, child..... all of these things that could be "The Roadblock" and are easily overcomeable if you use a lot of techniques, styles and by watching her behavioural patterns.

i.e. So I'd been chatting to L for a few days not really coming on heavy just kind of nice n easy get to know you sort of stuff not making my feelings know or my intentions perfectly open. Then "The Roadblock" drops, I see her out with a bloke and it turns out she has a bf etc.
So ok some guys would take this as a no go and just drop the subject, but this girl is special maybe the exception to the rule but anyway.... She then tells me later when texting that she's only been with him a month or so, nothing serious yet etc. So I being the PUA I am don't see a problem in the current setup. She has a man, but she's blatantly been flirting with me, she knows im interested and she isn't warning me off too much although at some points will "remind" me that she has a bloke so nothing can be achieved. At this point im aware of "The Roadblock", im not phased by it and I can get around it. I just need to get this guy out of the picture.


4. The Diversion - The best way to handle the roadblock

So you hit "The Roadblock", sized it up and should be thinking about "The Diversion" to take. Its obvious if you carry on using the same technique and approach you are destined to fail so you must course correct and get back on target. This is where "The Diversion" plays out, sometimes its simply taking a different turn, sometimes you will need to retrace your steps and figure out a better path, sometime the diversion will just lead you onto a new or better place. There are many outcomes of "The Roadblock" situation but as PUA's part of the skill set you should be developing if not already developed is the ability to adapt under any circumstances required to engage the target. This stage is really the true test of a PUA's skills and level of ability. This is either a walk in the park or a real mountain to climb but you as a person would be the only one able to judge whether the result is worth the effort.

i.e. Well after finding out about bf I decided to use the age old technique of try and make yourself look like the better man. I sent a few joking text's telling her im going to steal her off her man and basically letting it be known although she has thrown the bf out as a roadblock I have what it takes to deal with the situation. Now the way things played out was that her bf is a bit of a dick, never invites her out with him, never turns up when she invites him out etc. So luckily for me whenever he isn't about she invites me out etc. I went out a short while ago to join her and some friends of hers etc and just have few drinks. My ploy was to be nice to her but really work her mates as they are the key to the game. At the table were her, 2 female friends and 2 male friends. I worked the table made my alpha status known and generally just mixed in with the group. At some point I was chatting to one of said male friends who quizzes me of my interest as obviously he has been hearing things target side and wants to suss me out. I tell him my piece and he tells me that general consensus among all of the friends present is that her bf is a dick and that basically they are all backing me to try and show her this. So my diversion tactic of work the mates for my entry point paid off to a decent extent. I left the group to do some other stuff (trying to look busy etc) and said my goodbyes. Hour or 2 later I get a call from L telling me she has split up with her bf because he treats her like crap etc. So once Id left the group were primed and did the leg work for me. Result


5. The Pursuit - Active pursuit of the desired target

You find the girl, you engage in small talk, you find "The Roadblock", you overcome it and make a decent diversion....then....
she makes you do "The Pursuit". If all the work so far hasn't been enough now she wants to play hard to get etc. This is effectively the most important stage and the pivotal point in what you make of the situation. Bearing in mind she has literally just come out of a relationship where she was shown no respect and generally doesn't want that sort of thing again. What she will psychologically do, knowing full well of your interest is to continue to make it as hard as possible for you to obtain your overall desires. She is fully aware you want her but this is where you need to tread carefully. If you step up straight away start muscling in etc you could shoot yourself in the foot by trying to replace said bf. If you leave it too long and just be nice to her you could end up in the close male friend bracket. You need to make her aware you are physically attracted to her but leave any emotion or feeling / hopes of relationship to one side. It is not the time to be trying to tie her down or secure her its time to try and keep pace with her and jus stay on the level, be aware of where she at mentally and keep asserting yourself with the Kino play and your general physicality.

i.e. She's now single she's moaned her ass off bout her ex being such a c*nt to her yadda yadda, I had her on speakerphone while just eating my dinner and let her vent it out lol. She then lays down the rules of pursuit. At some point the woman will try her best to make it known that she specifically didn't dump her bf for you. L tells me repeatedly that she doesn't want me getting the wrong idea or impression etc and she isn't looking for a proper relationship. Again lesser men would walk away soul destroyed, I saw this as a challenge but also an invitation to something better, the fuck buddy / party girl you can sleep with etc. She mentioned about one night stands and flings etc but expressed her desire not to become emotionally involved. Being a PUA I never get emotionally involved and avoid oneism (I think that's the term) at all costs. I will never focus all my attention into one girl even though every girl clearly thinks that's is the case. So now I have her at the stage where all I really need to do is keep up with her, go drinking with her and keep bringing the physical attraction to the table, effective use of Kino and body language / loaded phrases and the girl starts to open up like the pages of a good Charles Dickens. The key in this situation was that from the night she was on the phone to me after she dumped him until about a week later I just left her be, I sent her one text in 7 days which lead to conversation and arrange a time to go out with her again. I didn't want to seem desperate or like im hedging all my hopes on her, realistically she is one of 6 girls who are in my active pursuits anat this given moment. I have gone from being there showing how much better time is with me over her bf, then when she's single I been 2 busy to talk but making sure I stay in her head. I also have the benefit of her seeing her friends I previously mentioned still hyping me up when they are with her and pointing out how much better I am than the hated ex bf.

6.a) The Destination (Outcome A) - The place you wanted to get to all along

"The Destination" is the end point, the plateau par se. This is the point you wanted to be at when you first met the girl and have fought to achieve. This is nirvana, this is the perfect outcome. You've been through a lot and really tested your mettle in getting her, but finally you have arrived, in one piece and just a lil worn out. The destination is whatever you wanted to start with, not what she lets you have by the end. If you wanted to be her bf, her fb, her casual fling, her husband whatever, this is your destination. She cant pick where you want to go you need to decide and do what it takes to get there. Once you are there its all about enjoying the location, making the most of the weather enjoying the calm and steady of it.

i.e. My realistic destination was to still be a single guy but to have L as a primary focus in my harem. Kind of leader of the pack. I have a couple of decent FB's who are purely for that, no dates etc just sex basically. What I wanted to achieve was to have a beautiful girl who I can take out to local bars where I go to socialise rather than pickup and then have a girl I could easily take back to mine after that and spend the night etc. I didn't want a gf I just wanted the sex, some decent looking company and a girl I can hold decent conversation with. This was achieved so I reached "The Destination".

6.b) The Location (Outcome B) - The place you ended up not where you wanted to be

So like all situations not everything can go to planed and outcomes change, priorities shift etc. Sometimes "The Destination" is completely unobtainable, whatever you wanted of the situation just didn't happen. "The location" is where you end up its a place but its not THE place. You could be the close male friend, the run around, the drinking buddy. But basically the deal is you aren't getting what it is you initially wanted and have just accepted what she offered as the be all and end all. I have ended up at "The Location" several times and used it as an opportunity to analyse my technique and break it down to see where I went wrong. Generally most times you end up at "The Location" you did something wrong at "The Diversion" or "The Pursuit" stages which left an impression on the target that wasn't your desired intention or what they require.

i.e. Ok I cracked this one and got what I wanted but Im willing to admit my past failings so here goes.

At "The Diversion" level I have made the mistake of replacing the bf with myself, trying to fill his boots, this doesn't go well because she wouldn't of turned to you in the first place if what she had was what she wanted. I've had girls who throw hot mates at me and I've shifted my game onto them, with varying success but missing out on the intended target. I've at times sounded to keen which although to be eager is good it sometimes comes across as needy and like your desperate.

At "The Pursuit" level I've screwed up by coming on to strong, telling her how much I like her when she really not ready to hear it, I've been shot down by her comments and ideals, ie. she jus wants to party and have fun but for sum reason I made the impression I want to settle down and get emotionally involved. I'm just giving you a few pointers from mistakes I've made because I learnt from them the hard way. Most likely so will you. Trial and error, make mistakes and develop on them.


Summary

So you can see above the basic breakdown of initial contact through to final destination. The example I've used has been a pretty challenging scenario for me to mentally work around and I think using my knowledge and prowess I accomplished what I set out to achieve. I worry a lot of people expect to go from "The Ignition" and end up at "The Destination" and this is how they all end up at "The Location" kicking themselves instead. The game is made to be played and I never like losing, so I just train and condition myself to be a winner and an achiever. If anyone needs further info or deeper analysis of maybe their own specific situation relating to these steps then holla at me. I'm here to learn and offer what ive already learnt in exchange. You probably recognise the steps above and may well be involved in this journey at present and you will over and over again. If a girl's worth having then a girl's worth fighting for. Determination, Education and Speculation will help keep you on your toes and focused.

Namaste