Hi guys, this will be my 1st post here. hopefully the right place. i need help on what to do next.

I met this girl in a club, she asked me to add her up on facebook on my phone. After that i asked her, why not give me your number, and we exchanged numbers. After the night, i went off with my friends.

we chatted for hours yesterday on facebook chat and sms, and yesterday night she asked me if i want to go party with her in another club again. But i couldnt for personal reasons so i rejected her and told her to have fun. We continued smsing for awhile more until she went out with her friends to the club.

Today is the 3rd day, what should i do. should i sms her or should i not? o.0

yeah sure why not?
maybe try to invite her to something, like going out with your friends or some sort of date but remembering to imply the fact that your gonna have fun anyways and that she should tag along.
but if she cant then just continue your text game, wait a bit, dont invest too much into her, keep a casual and fun frame and try to organise something again later.

hey thx supermaneric, hmm it seems that shes starting to get bored of me? takes her a whole day to reply 1 of my msg -_-

and we wont be texting unless i start it. i didnt text her today coz im afraid i would be too clingy.

invite her out stop wasteing time, she either agrees or flakes, if flake, 2 weeks no contact, try again, if flakes, 2 weeks no contact try again, rinse and repeat, when out with her, try to actually escalate the situation that should help

[quote="pumpington"]invite her out stop wasteing time, she either agrees or flakes, if flake, 2 weeks no contact, try again, if flakes, 2 weeks no contact try again, rinse and repeat, when out with her, try to actually escalate the situation that should help[/quote]

2 weeks no contact ??? way too much, if she's clubbing a lot she'll find another guy easy, and she'll be over you in 2 weeks... I'd say give her some space for a couple days, give her time to miss you, don't ignore her if she texts you but don't try to have a conversation just reply lightly... then ask her out after those couple days.

Comment on a pic or like a status or something... you want her to think about you but not talk to you. Girls fall in love when they are thinking about you and your not around. It's not the "conversation" you just had that gets her into that feeling, it's her thinking about it/you after you hang up the phone.... when you have oneitis and you cut contact with a girl it's easier to get over it... but when you have oneitis and you check her facebook page everyday, it hurts literally everytime you see her face... because the more you think about someone the more you emotionally connect with them.

hey thx pleassureseeker, hmm i have a diffrent situation right now

- we are smsing each other again
- she agreed to go out with me after her loads of assignments
- i can confidently say we are at least in the friend zone now

now my problem is, i dont know whether i should sms her everyday or skip a few days sms her again or whatever other ways.

what im currently doing now is smsing her everyday for about 20-25 mins in total a day?

SCORE! Shes going out with me, but now i dono where to take her since im new to this country LOL

[quote="Kyuchii"]SCORE! Shes going out with me, but now i dono where to take her since im new to this country LOL[/quote] take her to the beach or a park, somewhere cheap.

may i know the reason to that? i would like to learn more. is it so that she wont feel prized or smth? im not so familliar in this field yet

[quote="Kyuchii"]may i know the reason to that? i would like to learn more. is it so that she wont feel prized or smth? im not so familliar in this field yet[/quote]

yeah, a. if you spend money on her then the social frame becomes she's the prize, your chasing her, your trying to win her over etc... b. the more invested you are into her the more your going to care about her, the more you care the more you'll fuck up. c. It doesn't show much interest, it's a classic "hang-out" type so there's not much pressure she'll feel more comfortable. Though it really doesn't matter where you take her, it's 100% all about you... if you DO go do something that costs money I suggest you make her pay her own way. She will become more invested into you that way.

Take her in the park or somewhere else where you can buy those ice-creams in cone. And when you star licking the ice-creams look her in the eyes and say "Give me a kiss!". And if she says something like she doesn't like to kiss you or give you that look, tell her "An ICE-CREAM kiss!" (in a way that tells here that she had the wrong idea ) And shell be probably asking you what is an ice-cream kiss. Then you touch her ice-cream with yours so now there is some of her ice-cream on yours and some of your ice-cream on hers. Then you tell here "This way you can LICK MINE, and I can lick your... ice-cream" (you get the sexual intention )
(It is best done if you have ice-creams with different flavours)

wicked >:D ill keep that in mind. i scored another girl today >:D