I met a girl from class at a campus bar. We didn't talk much in class, but we recognized each other and said hello. We flirted, touched, etc. She wasn't drunk at all, and neither was I.

Her parents were there for graduation weekend, and she even introduced me to her parents.

After talked for a little bit, I asked her, "what are you doing tomorrow night?" and she said, with her head resting against my chest, "hanging out with you of course."

She gives me her number, tells me to text her the next night after 10pm to get together. I'm really excited, so I do so.

Reply from her reads, "hey! Im at xyz bar with my boyfriend, you should come!"

So I'm like "* * * ." I go with my boys anyway, and she spots me and motions me to come over. Doesn't introduce me to her boyfriend who is sitting right there, and flirts with me a bit to boot.

Also, she went on a long roadtrip over the summer and told me she would "call you to let you know i get their safely!" She didn't (forgot?) but it was odd she said she would do that, IMO.




Her and I have since scheduled lunch on Tues.

What gives in this situation?

Well, depending on how you feel about doing it, you could try to steal her from her boy. It seems she is in to you, and I'm sure you could escalate. Just completely ignore anything she says about her boyfriend, act as if she doesn't have one.

Or, move on. It's up to you if you want to ruin the relationship or not.

Had lunch!

Pros

-Very interested in me
-Great fun to be around
-Very touchy
-Loved compliments
-Great convo
-Wants to get together Saturday night for a drink
-Said twice she wants to "meet my friends"

Cons

-Lives with her BF
-Been dating him for 4 years

Thoughts, anyone?

Based on the fact she is living with her boyfriend of 4 years I would pose this question to you....

Is it worth the potential backlash? There are tons of girls out there and this one happens to be with a guy. If he is the kind of guy who might make your life difficult in one way or another its not worth wasting your time.

Second, are you planning to have a relationship with this girl or just hook up?

If your just trying to get laid then go for it, as long as you won't feel bad about the fact that she's cheating/lying to her bf etc.

But if you want a relationship...I would ask why would you want to be with a girl you know for a fact cheats? (if that did end up happening).

Just saying, ask yourself the simple questions, then consider what its worth.


The best advice I can give you is just to be her friend, and hook up with her friends instead. Cute girls have cute friends...its just a fact of life. If she likes you and you hang out with her and her friends, odds are you'll meet an equally sexy (and single) friend of hers you can hook up with instead

Thats great advice, thank you.

Nothing wrong with hanging out with her the way I currently do, right?