So i've kissed closed this french HB9 exchange student (I'm a 21 year old lebanese) Twice, with a few weeks between each.
I got flamed on my first try, she told me i was too young and that she couldn't get into something serious. She was scared it would get weird between us (cause we're freinds first of all, even if their has been a sexual undertone to all of your realtionship). I replied it wasn't gonna get weird and when back into freind mode.
But i knwe she was into me so a few weeks later i tried again and got the kiss close but she gave me the same script.
I went back to freind mode and tried again a few weeks later. i pulled out the big guns, it was a really cool date and we made out for 1h30 minutes at the beach a 2am. It was very sweet and tender but she gave the same speech.

Now i want to get to that next step but how do i get her to get her guard down?
I m thinking a bottle of wine at her place (which should not be a problem setting up, being sure her flatemates aren't around is a diffrent question though!), which gets me already inside and closse to the bedroom.

But how do i disarm her? should i freeze her out? should i go wild and just go for the thing like on the couch (which i really don't think will work) Should i try to answer when she gives me the speech and use reason and logic?

I' m gusseing most of you are gonna tell me to freez her out, but for some reason i don t feel it will work, maybe i m just a bit scared.

i hope i m posting this in the correct place, and sorry for the orthographe, i m dyslexique and english is my third language.
Thank you in advance

say "everything is fine" then kiss her " we both are adults" again kiss her "trust me" and now undress her.. i hope this helps..

Thanks dude, i'll keep it mind.

But i think what i really need to do is frame her in the correct way and i need a sure fire way to do it.

I'm also thinking of taking her cycling to get her to release some of her endorphines. But i m scared she'l; think she dirty and wouldn't want to take it to the next step. I'll probably have sweety balls too. But i think an action date should help.
Any feedback?

Speaking from my own experience,

When you are at her place, play a game (having a deck of cards really helps). Whoever has the lower card (Ace is the highest, 2 the lowest), has to answer a question. A bit later, make it truth or dare. Having a bottle of wine/vodka with some music will set the mood in. Be Cocky and funny, give her shit on the stories you hear. Joker, take an item of clothing off.

When I played this with my SPAM who I was gaming, I escalated from simple questions such as how many bfs have you had, to show me how you turn on a guy you are interested in! Eventually, get to her to show you how she kisses a guy she trying to turn on, n then push her away a bit or pull out first. After, should be smooth sailing.

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It's pretty strong advice there Silver, i'll be putting it in motion minus the cards. I'll just set it up as a question game. Thing is, we already did the whole talking about sex thing which got me the second kiss close.
But i guess if i scratch my head i can find a number of new questions to ask her I loved the show me how you kiss a guy you want to turn on question, golden but in this case i think i'll tone it down though a bit, and just ask her to show me how she turns on a guy she's hot for.
So we've got the kiss close down, but that was not the real issue. hopefully if i play it tight enough, I'll get the F-close.
She works on saturdays so saturday nights are the only nights we have and she's already taken this weekend so it's gonna have to wait next week.
Thanks again guys.