| How to get a number is a frequently asked question for aspirant members of the pua community. They don’t know when to do it, how to do it, or whether the girl will accept or reject them. Guys sometimes think they need a sneaky way to get a girl’s number because, if you ask directly, she won’t give it to you. This isn’t true. Girls want to give you their numbers if they are attracted to you or have a good reason to meet you again.
The skill is to direct the conversation so that you have a natural reason to get together for a day 2. That way, it’s not like you’re just trying to seduce her, more that it just makes sense to get together later because you share common interests and enjoy each other’s company.
What’s more if you know you’re trying to find things out about her to organise a day 2, it’ll add strength and structure to your mid-game.
The way to do this is to get the conversation to be based around common interests. So once you’ve opened the girl and are in mid-game, ask her:
What she likes to do
What food she eats
Where she goes out
If she’s a party girl
If she like the theatre/culture
And, look for signals for things she reveals she would like to do
Those are all good common interest questions allow you to transition into a number close. Here are sample conversations, note how you turn a general dialogue into a date:
You: hey, do you like to go out?
Her: yes
You: cool. My friends are I are going to bar x later this week. Give me your number and I’ll invite you along
Or, if she says no
You: Oh. What do you like to do then?
Her: x
You: Well, I know this good x-like place.
Or if you know nothing about x
You: do you like eating out? There’s this great place my friends recommended I haven’t been too yet.
Don’t ask for the number. Just take it. She’ll follow your lead.
If you can’t or don’t have time to find a good connection then you can always go for the standard:
You: you’re cool/its interesting talking to you, we should hang out.
Her: yeah.
You: (hands her the phone) what are you doing on Thursday?
Enter your number on her phone and try and arrange a date there and then.
As to what you actually say when you go for the number, there are options. I’d plump for ‘cool, give me your number’ but you can say ‘cool, what’s the best way to stay in touch?’ and then she’ll suggest her number to you. _________________ Before you change your thinking, you have to change what goes into your mind.
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