Okay, Here's the situation:

I've been seeing this girl for the past weeks. We mostly saw eachother at clubs or bar so we never really had a serious conversation, it was all flirting... Last time I saw her in a club, we we're making out and she was litterally begging me to fuck her in the club's bathroom (I didnt). We we're supposed to see eachother last friday. But I learnt right before the date by one of my friend that this girl was talking to her friends saying Im ugly and an asshole, etc... That made me really upset, so at that point I only wanted to see her so she could give me explanation.

So, when I see her, we start talking about serious subject, I started to bring up the subject but one of her friend showed up and told us we never to go (At that point, I was sure we would end up the conversation when we came back to the app.).

Then, we're at the club, I only know her and she knew a ton of people... At the club, we we're very distant because there was like 6 other dude trying to flirt with her. She did not do anything but didnt reject them though. I got mad and just left the club not saying bye to her.

Then she texts me she's sorry if we didnt spend time together and blabla... I did not answer. The next morning she texts me again : answer pleasseeeee, etc...

Finally, when I decide to answer, I just tell her the rest of the conversation (I knew I should not do this by text but I didnt want to waste my time anymore with this girl). So I basically tell her what I know and that I'm done trying to be with her, and if she wants anything to do with me, I'll only be waiting...

Then she texts me: I want to call you, I will call you tommorow with my home phone, when are you free so I can call you?

I did not answer to that text, so she did not call me... I did text her this morning saying that Im sorry if I did not answer her cause I was in a bad mood, and if she wants to talk about it, I can tell her where I am going on friday night...


Anywaysss, this is a pretty fucked up situation. A part of me tells me to let her go, but I dont want to lose her cause I liked her. Where did I fuck up? What should I do next? Should I talk to her if I see her on facebook?

P.S: She didnt answer my last text...

I'm pretty new to most of this, but
A few things I picked up - which you probably realised anyway: It sounds to me like you got a bit caught up in the whole thing and went a bit AFC. There's never anything wrong with throwing a few curveballs, but she gave you a clear IOI with the phone number and wanting to text you.

Unless she's pissed with the way you were around her, it sounds like meeting up wouldn't be difficult. Send her a text inviting her out - but don't bring up the fact you were pissed.

good luck.

Triple

I totally agree with you.. I acted AFC with that girl because I couldnt totally control my emotions..

She did not answer me yet, and I saw her on facebook a couple of time today. It was actually awkward because I wanted to talk to her but didnt know what to say, and I know she saw me on facebook and most probably was just waiting for me to talk...

I think I'll just wait a couple of days before talking or texting her and invite her on friday so we can get things clear.

mmmright?

first part you messed up. not fuckin' her in the bathroom. lol no seriously whenever, wherever duty calls you answer. I can recall a time in my life where i didn't have sex on a bed/house for almost 2 years. It was exclusively clubs (just about anywhere), parking lots, parked cars, dark alleys etc.

also if she was showing a willingness to get with you what do you care if you "heard" somewhere she was trash talking you. Its almost the same thing as a girl saying "i hate assholes" but WE all know for a fact that she CAN'T resist them. Who cares what you hear if she still wants you everything is in the bag let her talk.

if you are at a club and she is doing her thing, dont just stand there and feel bad for yourself GO OUT AND GAME! Socialize and MAKE yourself a "threat" rather than skulking and sneaking out the back door. You show her what she is missing and have the time of your life.

I can somewhat understand you freezing her out the first time BUT you took it too far you are little it get to you. She was practically begging for an audience with you and you ignored her. Which is good up to a point except YOU were genuinely angry and it wasn't part of your game plan. Don't catch feelings even if something hits close to him, analyze and act without letting your feelings get in the way of it.

As a general rule i don't catch feelings for girls i game till MUCH later. it saves on a lot of drama and keeps you emotional safe.. albeit detached ::shrugs::

Thumbs Up, actually not fucking can be used as a very high DHV if you learned to just build tension and toy around with her "emotionally", but your mistake was regretting not doing it.