I had one very frustrating experience:

I could generate the right moods, the right feelings in her, it was very clear that she liked me... only I somehow broke it at one point and I don't know how or if I can repair it:

The crash happened when I met her after I had a really bad day at work, I couldn't be so open, natural, cocky and talky like usual. Everything went bad... I was hesitating... couldn't initiate appropriate kino (we went out and for some stupid reason we just sat at a big table me in front of her (she looked like she wanted another table where we could be closer but STUPID ME I just hurried to take the worst place)... it was difficult reaching her hands, no way I could be intimate and close to her) she usually is very kino-close to me and receptive, almost like a mirror, she likes it when I touch her, she touches back and the eye contact is very strong and sensual... but that night was an absolute disaster. And after some more awkward talk for the first time I started to talk about myself (I never do that, I don't know why.... so stupid) and after more out-of-sync interaction, at the end of the night it was really weird and I almost got a LJBF. After this she posted something on facebook like "...and things can be otherwise" so I could see clearly she was expecting something much more from me, but I obviously failed.

Is there a way to repair it? This is really recent (it happened yesterday) and I didn't took contact with her since, but we're supposed to meet again to go to some dancing lessons today... I don't even know if it's worth going or meeting again with her, but as usual I am very stubborn and I really want to repair it if it is possible, especially since she was not so decided about the LJBF part (I could feel it) and she is the kind of girl who is really undecided (that's how I could turn her my way easily from the start)

I just feel so frustrated that after one f****d up night everything evaporated.
I am a really stubborn person, I can't live with the fact that I made a stupid mistake, I am an absolute perfectionist, and I want to make it right at any cost!

I thought that there can be 2 solutions here:

The first, I meet her, I tell her I had a very bad day that time and I was talking nonsense (without specifically apologizing) and start being the same like before but more distant to her for a while (like not calling her for a few weeks) and then start again something.

The second is I meet her and I am rood to her (but not too rude, just enough to tease her), making jokes or something, and if she says I'm bad I just tell her we're friends... it's ok, if not, I have plenty of friends... (she knows usually I go out with many HBs, some of them she knows personally, she knows also that I could have any one of them)

honestly I am tempted to go with the second one....

or you could try the third option...

not letting this bother you, its normal, we're human, we cant always be our best self, simply different variations of it, our states are like a river, they flow from one to another, and this is true for every living being on this planet, including that girl.

So forget about what happened its in the past, dont let it bug you, and act naturally, like nothing happened (dont be apologetic, nor an asshole to match it), simply accept that it was a different state of your personality, and ask her out again, as you would had it been a good date. Most girls will give you a second or even a third chance. So if shes as interested in you as you say she is, she will. If not then why continue to bother?

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Thanks for the advice! I should've realize this earlier... it's true that I am a very quick tempered person, and I tend to over exaggerate things...

Anyways... i just hope I didn't look too "soft" compared to the image she had about me from the start. That night I started talking nonsense about how I am afraid of investing feelings in somebody right now so I just prefer to put them in my music, and this kind of bs... in other words I was unnecessarily honest to her when I shouldn't have. And more than this she kept on telling me that she doesn't want a new relationship because all of the guys she has been with before developed some kind of obsession for her, but I completely ignored this since she was giving me all the other non-verbal signs that she is interested in me, not only this but one time when she said this to me I just smiled to her and ask her "so I'm just like everybody else for you ?(in fact it's a little difficult to translate from my mother language but the meaning is very close)" and she said "noooo, it's not true, you're different"

i don't know... maybe I'm thinking too much about it

this is good, dont be afraid of being intimate with girls, it shows your true side, and that you trust her, in fact 70% of conversation wit girls should be intimate talk, evoke her emotions, its real easy to develop this kind of convo, and its really the foundation to a great bond with someone...

look at my previous posts, i posted some things about being authentic, and interpersonal relationships, this is great, look PUA is great to set you aside from the other guys and establish you as a dominant unique guy, and this should be one side of yourself, however, dont get too caught up in game mode... imo, based on what you just told me, it looks like you had a good night, because you gave her the opportunity to get to know you a little more intimately, however, w/ intimate convo, its give and take. It works like this... you wanna give a bit about yourself to get her talking about herself as well. Once you have established the routine of being really open w/ each other, you wanna give just enough so that she feels shes really getting to know you, and thus, in her mind, you are much more 'special' than all other guys, this is much more powerful than ANY kind of DHV. But you still wanna keep an air of mystery. Keep her on her toes, be like a bottemless barrell of personallity, the more she discovers about you, the more she realizes how deep you are and how little she knows you. Always have something deep, or interesting to talk about, things that will evoke her emotions, and probe her mind. Dont be afraid to ask her about past bfs, and relationships, her bonds to her family, her goals and dreams, honestly, there is tons of stuff you can cover that will make her feel really attached to you.

Honestly, your situation sounds a lot like my current situation with this Spanish girl right now.. and honestly, the kinds of bond you create through authentic intimacy are great. Just be careful. 2 things: 1. if you are gonna develop this kind of bond with her, make sure you want her a a keeper, not just a single lay. 2. When you are not around her, pretend shes totally friendzoned you or w/e. This is the best way to stave off oneitis... simply because you DO create a powerful bond, and your mind will begin to fuck with you. You'll start to fantasize about things you wanna do with her next time you see her. Thus you begin to progress most of the interaction in your mind, and believe she likes you more than what she may actually like you. Never assume she likes you a lot, that when you begin to get caught in the vicious cycle, and begin to lose your dominant frame.

Anyways, best of luck mate

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"Be the change you wanna see in the world" -Gandhi

it's really helpful... thanx for the advice

it's true it gets really dangerous when I am stubborn wanting to make it right I can fall easily into oneitis without noticing. this weekend she's going back to her hometown, i should take the time to go out with some girls... hehe