I've been texting this girl lately and was trying to see if she wanted to go to this place with me. I didnt quite get the response I wanted and I didnt exactly know how to convince her to write her paper later and hang out with me instead. She didnt say no exactly, but I bet ill get that response tomorrow. My question is what kind of response would you give to when she probably says no she cant hang out tonight.

The afc in me would say something like "that's cool we'll hang out another time" but from the stuff ive been reading that ain't gonna work and she is just going to keep blowing me off. I don't want to say that. I want to say something that is sorta C&F where I show I don't care that she didnt show, but that she's gonna wish she hung out with me that night.

Got any suggestions?

My other question is does anyone have a good way of convincing women to hang out with them who are on the fence about it? I didn't do that this time, but I'd like to be ready next time. Thanks.

There is the possibility she actually has no time to hang out THAT night. If she doens't hint you she wants to meet you some other time, then change the subject.

my suggestions would be teasing her for being a geek. If she's passionate about her study, u have to be sure not to have a rude tone, or she will blow u off for negging her passion.


Next time, put the magic words in ur text:

"You guys should meet us at X"


Getting her to come to a party or something WITH her friends, to meet you 'and your friends', is sometimes better. Depends on the situation ofc..