| First, she has to want you bad. Second, you can make out that you're cool with sleeping on the couch.
You can't reason your way into bed, she has to want you there.
So if you can see yourself ending up on the floor, you're not confident you'll do your best to be the best guy in the night club for her. You need to get get out of that mentality.
Also if you go around the whole night acting like you're trying to end up in her bed, it'd going to show, in a bad way, and even if she liked you, that would turn her off anyway.
So the best thing to do is put that goal out of your head and just do your best to give her and the other girls a good time. and accept the possibility that in spite of your best efforts, you may not end up there. Because if you accidently broadcast that you're trying to end up there, you'll ruin your chances anyway.
If you just be your awesomest self, anything could happen. You may impress them all as a group, enough that they invite you out next time and something sexual happens in the future. You may end up with group sex that night. You may end up sleeping wih someone different. The bottom line is to be the most awesom guy you can be. Then a girl will want you in bed. If you're narrow-mindedly focused on one goal that doesn't even matter in the big scheme of things, you'll miss out on all the other awesome things that could happen.
Just be your awesome self, and don't "need" anything, knowing you'll get what you want in the long run because you're more awesome than all the other guys they know. That's what works for me.
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