Quick question...

Just sent to a text to a girl that I met last week asking her what she's doing tonight....


Me: Hey what are you doing tonight?
Her: Nm, you?
Me: Got some work to do for now, lets go on a cruise later

It's been an hour and a half and she hasn't responded...Should i just wait it out or send her another one?

So far I've only been on 1 lunch date with her...(Not including the meal we had when i approached/met her)

Nm you was your immediate opening to make a plan. Dont text... call the girl and set it up! Remember to be spontaneous.

So she responded saying she has to write an essay tonight and asked if there was another time this week that would work. I asked if tomorrow night would be good. Now it's been 2 hours and she hasn't responded lol....She's confusing the shit out of me.

Yeah unfortunately "nothing much", when a girl goes out on a limb like that to say she's not soon anything because she's a loser who isn't out having fun, that's your clue to call her and go do something with her. So if you turn that down, you don't at least call her and have a nice chat to keep her company, that can be a deal breaker with popular girls.

I must admit, even I was confused reading your message there - why would you ask her what she's doing if only to tell her you have some work to do? and to go on a cruise later? That sounds like a joke.

At least if she's askin you for another night you probably still have some

I asked her what she was doing later that night. I was busy at the moment, but asked her if she wanted to go on a cruise in the evening...

Hm well that's how I read it - when I hear the word cruise I think of a hundred dollar ticket on a huge boat that goes around the Caribbean or something. Unless theres a reason she'd know exactly what you meant, she probably misinterpreted it like I did

Thing is with texts, they can be misinterpreted, and the best time to phone call is right after you get a txt, cause you know she's at her phone. Manu good phone convos I've had have started out just like that (and how yours could have gone):

(my text) "you home yet/awake/ what you doing" whatever is relevant
(her txt) "nothing much / yeah home / you?"
*I phone call when her reply comes through, she picks up*

Got a date w/ her tomorrow, we'll see how it goes...

First actual "date" out of school....Any suggestions??

Doesnt matter, just have fun?

Dont try to impress her, you will impress her, by not trying to

Good luck dude.

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Date went awesome, and got a k-close (first date)

She told me her roomate is gone fo the weekend, which can only mean one thing...

Thanks guys.

Cheers, im happy for you

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Just have to let nature take its course, dont expect anything but relax knowing You can get anything you want, don't be afraid to follow impulses, they are fine if you get behind them 100%, and know that even if you get turned down you just act like you didn't and keep rolling with something else and that's worth even more points.

Wow she flaked.........I have absolutly no idea what I did wrong...

hey im quite new to this pua thing, but im listening to some audio from Brad P SPAM, and he's talking about how guys can easily pick up from where we left off (for example, a k-close). For women its different tho. U gotta get them in that emotional state first, the next time u 2 speak, he has several tricks for that.

Not sure if thats the case here tho, thought i'd just mention it!

Well without more info, we can't help. What were the texts or phone convos between the time she said her house mate is out for the weekend, to the point she flaked? And how did she flake, what happened?

For example, if there was a long time between those 2 points, and you didn't have ANY contact, I'd say that's probably bad. Generally speaking, you can't make a date for more than about 3 days later without some form of contact in between, quick phone call or text, to keep the spark. Generally speaking. Otherwise if she doesn't hear from you in a friendly fashion, she might start thinking "argh what have I got myself into" because she forgets what it was like to talk to you.

Well without more info, we can't help. What were the texts or phone convos between the time she said her house mate is out for the weekend, to the point she flaked? And how did she flake, what happened?

For example, if there was a long time between those 2 points, and you didn't have ANY contact, I'd say that's probably bad. Generally speaking, you can't make a date for more than about 3 days later without some form of contact in between, quick phone call or text, to keep the spark. Generally speaking. Otherwise if she doesn't hear from you in a friendly fashion, she might start thinking "argh what have I got myself into" because she forgets what it was like to talk to you.[/quote

See my topic, "how the hell did I fuck up" - also on the closing forum