Hey, my second post here, as I'm relatively new..

Ok, so this chick, on my opinion HB9, my friend gave her 8.5 is a waitress/bartender , whatever the fuck, at this pool bar.

Legend: blablabla refers to any piece of conversation that isnt important or that I forgot. _____ refers to information left out for privacy

Now I encountered her 3 times in the span of a week. My problem is that shes giving shit tests and Im not sure if her IOIs are real of fake. I remember most of the conversation. Im a fairly good looking guy

DAY 1:


she approaches as her job requires her to

HER: Would you like anything to drink
ME: Would you like to join us, we are three people and we are missing a player?
HER: smile No I'm very busy tonight. I'm the only waitress
ME: It's ok. Ask one of your colleges to replace you (bartender)
HER: bal blbla bla bla (Give me kino)
ME: What's you name?
HER: ______ *Foreign name
ME: What?
HER: _______ *Foreign name. Alot of people can't pronounce my name (Or something like that) Im from _______.
ME: O wow you speak arab. Salem (kino touch hand to great)
HER: (kino back. Says some incomprehensible shit in her language. I dont actually speak her language)
ME: (Try to imitate her and to respond back)
HER: Laugh.. blablabla.
ME: blalbalball. (Shes leaves)

She comes back again..

ME: Where are my drinks?
HER: I thought you didnt order anything.
ME: Maybe later
SHE: smile and leave

DAY 2:

I see her again, she smiles and waves hello. I wave hello

later that night..

SHE: Hi how are you. Would you like to order anything.
ME: (grab bear from her plate) Why thank you is that for me. ( put it back)
SHE: Smile and blabla
ME: No we arent gonna take anything for now, but you can pass buy later.
SHE: Ok I will.

We continue playing pool and at one point we leave.

DAY 3:

she comes without a plate and doesnt ask if we like anything to drink. Shes aways smiley face. Now my friends were observing and they tell me I had pretty bad body language, but she didnt seem to respond negatively

SHE: HI, waves
ME: HI! wave
SHE: bla bla bal come close to me
ME: (kino kiss on both cheeks, hug, but that's more friendly i suppose)
HER: Why don't you join us for pool, missing a player again
SHE: I would like to but blablabalbal some shit i dont even remember, but i never have time
ME: blabalbal
HER: blablabla im working at a casino (wtf? she works here)
ME: fuck you bitch.. no im kidding i didnt say that obv. blablaal. Ok how about you give me your phone number and well play pool. blabal cuz your aways busy
HER: I dont want to play pool here, I want to escape from this place
ME: Ok whatever well do something else ( which i shouldnt have fkin said)
HER: blalbal i dont remember, can you give me a beer?
ME: What? you want me to buy you a beer?
SHE: No, just give me some of yours
ME: No it doesnt work that way. You buy me a beer first and then il buy you one.
SHE: blabalbal. Your playing hard to get, me I cant play hard to get (wtf?)
ME: blabal
SHE: Il give you my number after you get me a beer.
ME: What? youll give me your number if a buy you a beer?
SHE: Maybe im not guaranteeing
ME: blabalba, come back when your rdy to give me your number.
SHE: I like your shirt, smiles wide. Il come back. (and leaves)

Now day 3 happened today. We played some more pool and we left. She didnt come back. She rarely passes buy though, once per night. So that's it, I think she just wants to use me mostly, but on the other side, she might be interested and is just giving me a fukload of shit tests.

What do you guys think?

Just from an outside perspective, I think you've fucked up. Day 1 and 2 she was clearly, CLEARLY just playing you, there was nothing in there except hired gun behavior. Day 3 got kind of weird, and I agree it looks like she's testing you out to see how much of a chump you are. That might be a small IOI. It's been three days now, it sounds like you've just been hanging out at the pool with your guys, not really demonstrating any social value and your conversations with her are abysmal for the most part. The first two days, she had you pegged as just another customer, the third day you broke the pattern a little by not giving her any of your beer, but you also failed that shit test.

My verdict is you would have been better off not acting like a customer that first day and getting her number back then. With a hired gun, you have to establish that you're not just a faceless customer, I'd think you can do this by acting like she's not working and introducing yourself like you would to any stranger who is busy. Just think about it. How often does a guy say something like, "Hey, I was hoping you'd come over here and talk to me. I'm Minsok." Can't say for sure, I personally have never wanted the challenge of a hired gun, shit is hard enough as is. At this point, you've pretty much established your roles and the harder you push to break the pattern, the more you're going to look like a creep customer.

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