I'm been getting better and better at gaming...haven't closed much at all recently, but at least im out there trying. On NYE, had a party at my house, went really well, introduced myself to a lot of people, seemed like the center of attention, talked to plenty of girls, made friends with all the dudes that came with them, etc. Basically, seemed like the girls were wondering why I had so much social proof.

However, the girls that seemed the most receptive at the party had boyfriends, they didn't tell me, but after friending them on facebook, i find that they do. This happens to me all the time, not even after parties. Girls in my classes, etc. they always open up to me more and get more playful and flirty when they have boyfriends. It's kind of annoying.

Is this simply because I seem more fun and challenging than what they're currently getting? Or are they simply seeking attention from other guys cause they like it? Just curious on some experts opinion.

just a disclaimer, I'm pretty new, but it sounds like you're showing them a more fun lifestyle than they have. And they might feel trapped in their relationship while it looks like you're out having the time of your life. Just my theory

Are you actually hitting on them? Kino escalation? real flirting? Or are you just talking with them? Did you add any of the guys on facebook either? Were you surprised if they had girlfriends?

I could be wrong, but to me it sounds like you were just being too friendly and getting friend zoned. Did you actually get any strong IOIs from any of these girls?

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I guess I wasn't doing too much kino with them, but def. some strong IOI's for sure. They were touching me mostly and trying to make the conversation slightly sexual.

Right from the gate you must dictate a pace. Having fun is great, but you don't proceed over the comfort stage its a wrap. Generally girls with boyfriends are long fuses. You take your time and work the text game well on them. My suggestion build rapport and find out. As we say in the army don't ask don't tell. If she says yes ignore it and continue. This is a start, since you really didn't clarify what you do in field .

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Yeah I have this problem too. Basically you're so in the zone that the hottest (and taken) girls at the party want to talk to you, and the available girls are too shy and think they have no chance.

Like someone said earlier - the taken ones may actually be a long fuse - some weeks down the track of being friends wih you, they get sick of their bf and run you're in. Other times nothing may happen.

But you should be finding out really soon if they are available. Then use them as social proof for the single girls.

Topics that may lead in to seeing if they're single are;
who did you come with tonight
what are your living arrangements
Been overseas? (long term partners travel together)

Obviously you don't ask that outright, but you can lead conversation down those paths.

I have the same problem too. I seem to get a lot of girls with boyfriends, and don't realise they're taken until after I've fucked them a few times...

Girls are hornier than us... The thing is a lot of them are only ever comfortable once they have a boyfriend. A single girl will give you all kinds of tests, she'll hold back from sleeping with etc. to try and trap you into a relationship. Girls with boyfriends never do that... They don't need to hold back anymore, they already have a boyfriend to do boyfriendy stuff with, they've already got a guy trapped. Now they can have fun with whoever they want and not worry about not getting a call back or whatever, because they know their boyfriend will still be there for them.

I disagree that they're long fuses. Sure they're more likely to fuck you if they're mad at their boyfriends, but you don't need to wait. I fucked a girl and then afterwards she got a call from her boyfriend, they were telling eachother "I love you" and stuff... I think it's bad to go for girls like that, I wouldn't want a guy to do that to me (and it has happened a lot of times), but with girls that are taken it's much easier to get casual sex I think, since they're not focuses on trying to trap a guy anymore...