Hey guys, I went to the bar tonight and for the first time decided not to drink anything. The night could not have gone my way more. But I need help with a day 2 etc. Here's what happened:

Went to the bar, met up with my long time high school guy friends, and 2 girls that I have been friends with for a couple of months (that really like me, think I'm amazing and etc.) Well, those two girls brought a friend along tonight, really cute. One of the girls had been talking me up apparently because she knew who I was and knew a bunch of DHV stories about me already.

Anyways, I look up at the disco light on the ceiling and make a face because the light was shining in my eye, she laughed and looked directly at me. At this point, I knew it was on. She starts opening me (it was a trivia night), she says, "I really hope we win" I start talking to her, at first it's a bunch of random BS, normal interview stuff, and then we get deeper into conversation because she is into music just as much as me and works in the city for a music company. At this point she asks her friends to take a picture with me, and we do. She then puts her hands on my knees when my guy friend buts in to cockblock me.

At this point, I just walk away and start talking to other people in the bar, including one of the other girls, and some random girl, and some other dudes. This other girl at the bar is starting to get into me, and I can see the original girl's jealous look in her eye. I walk to the bathroom, sit down in my original seat, and she's nowhere to be found. She then comes out of the bathroom and massages my shoulders real quick. Conversation continues.....

and she opens up to me like crazy, at this point I can't even get a word in, she just keeps going on and on, and I'm enjoying starting into her eyes not having to say a thing. Every once and a while I would neg her or use some qualifiers+comfort.

We leave the bar, and my friends go get something to eat, when we're walking she walks near me the entire time while everyone else lags behind. She then slips on some ice and grabs onto me. I then put my arm around her shoulder and keep her close to me, I say "I got you covered." She smiles and then we keep going.

She told me earlier in the bar toward the beginning, "I have to go home by 8 30, I have a doctor's appointment."

So all her belongings are at her friends place which is locked. Her friend passed out and locked her out. I tried calling all her friends that were there, no one picked up. She was fucked. She used my phone to call her phone to see if her friend would wake up. I told her she could crash at my place, it's no problem. She said, "It's not that I don't want to crash at your place, I just can't, I really need to get up tomorrow." She sounded sincere, and I could tell she was into me, so I offered to drive her home.

We talked for the entire ride back, where she was just really into me, she wouldn't stop talking about her dogs, her life, she opened up like no one I've met before. I drop her off and she gives me a hug. I say, "We should hang out again." She replies, "Def. and now you have my number!"



Fucking great man. But, now what? This is the part I'm terrible at.

ready? ok here it comes.....Call Her

Tell her that you are going somewhere(downtown or w/e) and say she can come along if she wants.

Right, but the problem lies in that she doesn't live that close to me, about 30 min, but I guess it could be arranged.

I'm finding that a major problem with this forum is that many people view these threads, but offer little to no advice. What's the deal with this?

Hey champ.

It should be obvious what to do. Call her, chat for abit. Then set a date with her, do something fun.

One question.

She gave you all the ioi's to go into the kiss, why did'nt you?

When you go on date with her, make sure to use alot of playfully kino, and go for the k-close at the least.

Cheers.

_________________
- You miss 100% of the changes you dont take.

It seems like it's going well. She gave you a lot of IOI, you could have kiss her, e.g. when u had your arm around her, you could have stop her, look in her eyes, push her against the wall, and kiss her ), next time escalate more by using more kino, show her your interest by being physical, and look at her feedback (eyes, facial expression ). You're the man, you are the one showing the rhythm, she will follow. Kissing is something really natural & easy if you escalate with kino . Don't forget attraction / repulsion and be playful...
Why don't you call her later today and ask her out for a drink ?

Escalate and kiss her in the first hour if it's doing well ( e.g. tell her "you smells so good, you make it very difficult for me not to kiss you", a soon as she don't say "good that you don't kiss me", you can go ahead and kiss her ), then you can start building sexual tension.

Biggest tip I can give you - now that she's so obviously keen on you - reward her IOIs appropriately - you should always have proportionately a little less enthusiasm than her - but PROPORTIONATELY.

So if she shows you a little IOI, you give a little one back, just slightly less.
But if she shows you a BIG IOI, you need to give a BIG one back, just slightly less than that.

A lot of mistakes people make are to take the traditional PUA stuff too far, and when she goes out on a limb and gives a huge IOI like "I wanna have sex with you" the guy plays it too cool and goes "Yeah maybe soon, I'm busy today, maybet later in the week?" and then he's fucked - in the bad way. She feels mortified and loses all attraction for him. 100% over.

For example if she were to say "I want to have sex with you!" you wouldn't reply just as enthusiastically eg. "Yeah me too!" (well you could, I'm not saying this is 100% right, you have to feel the vibe) but an example of replying with only slightly less is to look her right in the eye and grin and say "Fucking awesome." Just a simplified example to give you an idea.

The reason I didn't K-Close is because after she realized she was locked out without her stuff, with nowhere to go, she started to cry a little bit and I didn't want to be the puss guy that's going to console her. So after she was a bit too emotional, I felt like the vibe wouldn't have been there to go for it. I'm def. going for it the next time I see her, for sure.

Ok, so she's gone on vacation with her fam for the week, I sent a playful text, she responded with some good banter, then I asked "I'm going to a party blah blah, you should come" She said "I'm on vaca till next week, but get ready when I come back, and not to drive me home haha."

she should be in the basket now

good work champ

_________________
- You miss 100% of the changes you dont take.