Let me begin by telling you the back story of this girl. We were friends for a while, like 6 months and by "friends" I mean more like acquaintances, we move in similar friendship circles. Unfortunately, because of my afc friends and their gossiping I have developed a reputation as being a "player" in college. The college is big enough that I dont have problems with random girls since most people still dont know me but in my circle this is how im seen.

I know that this girl hasnt dated anyone since ive met her, tbh she isnt that attractive and I wasnt into her initially but she has a great personality so I have started to like her recently. I also know she liked me for a while (the IOIs couldnt be missed), although my afc friends said otherwise, I usually ignore their advice though.

So about 2 weeks ago she was at a party I threw, we both got drunk and she decided that she was "too drunk" to walk home so she had to stay over at my place. I offered her my roommates bed (since he wasnt home that night) but she decided that my bed was "warmer". Once inside we made out, and I did almost everything else but she didnt want to sleep with me because I am leaving (Im graduating and moving away, although I am probably coming back in 6 months to do a masters program). after this night, all our friends found out and because they all knew both of us (it wasnt just some random girl this time) they made a massive deal out of it. Some of them said stuff to her about me (because they like her as well I think) and I cant be sure what but I think it was how im a player and how she was just another notch on my belt, etc.

Three days later I invited her over to drink with me and some of my friends (who were all male). She came and drank with us, some of them made fun of her, and me and made jokes about what they think happened. The whole night she was sitting like two meters away from me (no exaggeration) even though I tried to get closer to her. regardless they all left and she stayed, we drank more as she was still sitting away from me and then she left to walk home by herself at 4 in the morning(even though I offered to walk her home).

About a week ago, I stayed over at her parents house house (away from college since it is now break) because I had a flight the next day and had nowhere to stay. When I said I was only staying for a day she was suprised and disappointed. In any case that night, we drank together in the basement where I was sleeping that night and there was a lot of kino but nothing else (she seemed distant again but got a little closer when drunk). I gave her a massage, and she returned the favour. then she just left to go sleep in her room.

The next day my flight got cancelled because of bad weather so I asked if I could sleep there again. this time we didnt drink and she seemed a lot closer to me. there was massaging again and when I "fell asleep" (I was trynig not to go at her too hard, keep my distance) she just stayed there and slept beside me, nd during the night she kept getting closer to me, until by morning she was sleeping on me. I was to tired from nights of no sleep to try anything, and I also had to get up early for a flight.

During these 2 nights she also kept telling me about guys on TV who were hot (Hmm), and about "boy trouble" she had. also, the other night when we were hanging out with her friends she told one of them that "John was being clingy" (thats not me btw). Ive no clue who it is.

Here is what Im concerned about. Im now away but will visit her again in about a week. I was hanging out with a female friend last night (we are just friends) and she was telling me about her guy troubles. Basically she said that she really likes and misses this one guy that we both know but she doesnt find him attractive "that way", she said she loves him to death but she doesnt want to sleep with him so its complicated, basically she "wants to just hug him all the time" (sigh, chicks...). I am afraid that I am in the same situation with the first girl I was talking about (and I dont want to be) and I dont know what to do when I see her next to move away from the friend zone. The reason Im worried is because of what this girl said, and because the girl I like doesnt want to sleep with me (although this could just be LMR), and because she seemed more distant after something happened between us and because Im finding more difficult to get close to her now that I actually like her (as i mentioned before I wasnt that attracted to her before). I basically just found out that I girl can "really like" a guy and be "really close" without it being sexual from this friend. So Im afraid that all the "IOIs" I got were that and not anything sexual.

Basically, what do I do and what did I do wrong?