I was wondering what the general rule of thumb is for after you've bounced to a new location. Say you bounce from the bar to a cafe and you both order coffee... Do you pay for the both of you? do you each pay for yourselves? do you convince her to pay?

Thanks

If it's the same night? No, I wouldn't buy hers. Next day, I probably would pick up the tab on something like that.

If she gives you shit about it (aka..shit test), you say........"you should be paying for mine" (cocky funny way)...... Let her know indirectly that you are the prize. Not her.

thanks for the advice ill definatly use it..... seems to be a question that should always arise for a succesful pickup but no body really address's

i pay for it. then i say next time, you pay four ours. it gives a second date (that is if you're into her and she is as well).

however, when the bill came up to like 22 dollars. I only had two twenty dollar bills. I let her pay 5 dollars to cover the $2 plus tip.

Same night bounce I do exactly what Saqchek does. Buying her a drink at the cafe is just as bad as buying her a drink at the bar.

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kkk so from what im getting when its a bounce the same night either share cost or get her to buy it.... day 2/ dates pick up some tabs on food

It really just depends on what your style is going to be. Prior to discovering these methods I would generaly play the nice guy and always pay for everything b/c your raised with the idea that that is what the "Man" does. Now I see this as a way a woman can feel she has won my attention. You wouldn't buy something for just anyone on the street if they came up and asked for it so buy giving them that little pleasure I'm conveying an interest. A SoI isn't bad if your giving it to them as a reward but, to me, this type of SoI is to much for me to reward them with on the first meeting. Again these are just my opinions towards the matter, as you can see other people feel differently. Find what works for you

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"Why do we fall, sir? So that we might better learn to pick ourselves up."

almost everything you hear or read about the game shouldnt be RULES....

everything is felxible

they are GUIDELINES!!!.....

some will say you should never pay - and not that far back i was one of them because it lowers your value...

i feel this is wrong - each situation is different, eaxh women is different and each player is different - work out what is best for you.

first date - i pay. im a little old school - and the women i am starting to date now are a little classier than the ones i used to date back in my small hick town. they expect the other person to pay, and if they dont - then they see it as less masculine - so in a way by not paying, i am lowering my value!!

i dont mind paying - im really not fussed, but if she doesnt offer to pay, she loses value in my eyes...

BUT - on the next date -- which is a bit more relaxed - she pays for meal and drinks. i pay for the activity (ie rock climbing, museum etc)