Hello everybody,

I am gaming a girl who is definitely LTR material, so I really need your help on proceeding.

Background: I met this girl through friends about 2 years ago and we instantly hit it off, a lot of laughter, good conversation etc. I felt instant attraction but did not try gaming her because I was in a LTR and so was she. She knew from the start that I was a lesbian. We both ended our LTR approximately at the same time and have been spending more and more time together for the past 3 months, and I am definitely in the circle of her most intimate friends. All this time I've been negging her, teasing etc. and got good responses from her. I've been escalating kino and have had no resistance so far, she is really comfortable with it. I can tell she is flirting with me. The question if she could ever be with another girl is beyond this post and I won't go into it, but I feel if I game her the right way, there is a good chance I could have her.

Problem: As soon as she ended her LTR she kinda started seeing this guy in the city where she studies. So they haven't been seeing each other for more than 3 months. She didn't even mention him for a long time and she spends more time here in our town than with him. When she is here, we are constantly in contact, teasing each other on FB and seeing each other alone or with other friends about twice a week, sometimes more. I have taken all the precautions not to fall into the friend zone (if that's even possible with two girls).
But when she goes to his town, the contact is very scarce from her side.
So far, I have just left her alone and not tried to contact her or anything while she is there, unless she contacts me first, and then also keep it brief and seem like I'm very busy.

My question is, how should I act when she is there with the PM-ing and FB and should I try to run some kind of a boyfriend destroyer on her?

I never mention or ask about her BF. When she mentions him, I comment how he seems perfect and maybe she found a keeper, someone who will marry her etc. I do this because I know she's not ready to get married and settle down, she is young and wants to experience a lot of stuff still. He, on the other hand, is a little bit older and quite ready to settle down.

Should I try to do this more often so it starts bugging her, or should I just let them be and hope the fling will end soon enough and try make my move then?

Also, I don't know how to keep escalating with her while there is this BF barrier between us. Should I see her less often and give her the gift of missing me? I don't want this energy we have go stale (without escalating it will) or to fall into the friend zone.

While she is my primary target, I do game other women. I don't know if I should let her know about them or not. I know it would help if she could see me with another girl to make her see me as a sexual being, but I don't wanna seem a slut or a player.

Sorry for the long post, I hope you can help me out.

If you need more info, I'll gladly give it.

Cheers!

It sounds to me like the opportunity with this girl as passed, or is quickly approaching. You need to escalate and take it to the next level before she begins to view you as a flirt buddy and nothing more.

It doesn't sound like she is opposed to the idea, but she may need some encouragement, that is where you come in.

As far as PM-ing and FB, I would say things like 'you better stop contacting me or your man will find out about us'. It may also be fun to send pics back and forth. See if you can get her to send a sexy pic. That would be a good indication of where her head is.

You always want to give the gift of missing you, it works wonders for men and women. But it will only work if there is some attraction there.

If you game other women, don't keep it a secret, but don't throw it in her face either. If she knows that you are with other women it will only help because #1, it will make you desirable, and #2 it will show her you have a life and not waiting around for her.

Hope this helped some.

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Thanks for a quick response.
What you said makes a lot of sense.

I'm still wondering how to proceed regarding the boyfriend.
Should I just ignore the fact he exists? The problem is I know for a fact she is not a type of person to fool around if she's seeing someone. So I have a feeling this thing has to end before I can make a real move. The last thing I want is her having remorse if she gives in with me, and then shuts me out completely. Would it be a good idea to just game other girls and "forget" about her for now, and just be playful and fun when we are together or should I try to escalate kino rapidly and see where it leads?

I have a feeling she's the Tarzan kinda of girl when it comes to dating, you know, always grabbing the next vine before she lets go of the old one, so escalating regardless of the boyfriend could be ok. On the other hand, I have to successfully get past the "OMG, but you're a girl" thing and in my experience the boyfriend can make that difficult.

Well, for one thing, I think focusing on other girls can be only beneficial for so many reasons. So I'll do that until I have a better plan:) Thanks again for your response!

Cheers!

I have a feeling she's the Tarzan kinda of girl when it comes to dating, you know, always grabbing the next vine before she lets go of the old one

Love that analogy.


It all comes down to ethics really. Some people stay away from a situation involving boyfriends or girlfriends because things could get messy. Others could care less. If you are on the fence about getting caught in the middle, stay away. You don't sound like the drama type anyway, lol.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene