So i gave this girl my number while shopping and she text a few days later, we eventually arranged a date (she seemed pretty rubbish at texting even though she started it)

She almost cancelled the date but we went for a drink in the end and it went really well! Im pretty sure i know when i get on with someone and her back. We had a proper kiss at the end of the night, so all was good.

Text her the next day and she text back straight away and was all good. Some random chat and i invited her to dinner bout week later, she agreed. Ocassional text in between but the afternoon of the second date she cancels, saying shes "just come out of a awkward relationship" and too early to date.

Well anyway, weve text quite a bit and shes been replying and fun and shes written on my facebook status a couple of times. But I feel like i might be messing things up further if i keep texting, i mean i last night started off texting with a funny text and she seemed super keen, texting back within 2 minutes, but the more texts the more i lose my GAME as I like her!!

Anyway thinking of just not texting her, but then think she may well just forget about me. To be fair may have just been a good date for me not her, just thought the kiss was instigated by her!

Any advice guys??

Thanks!!

sounds like the reason it went wrong is your texting might need improvements and you didnt do enough push pull on 2nd date and after, sounded like all pull.

i would study some texting tips and push pull techniques.

maybe bring up some fun story about how you went on an awesome date last night, and that you are looking forward to seeing the girl and you want to get some advice, hopefully her body language will giver her away, if she looks like she is acting uncomfortable and upset. say its ok with you that we are just friends right? i really dont want anything more from someone who is still having issues with their break-up.

but im new to this so i may be wrong, but i think creating some jealousy and calling her on being a loser might work. take away the option of you being avail for her whenever she wants.

Take a glass of water, a deep breath and relax.

You need to feel in control, to be in control.

By that - I mean don't be texting her and jumping at her every move. If you send a couple of funny texts and get a good response, don't keep trying to over do it by coming up with another joke. Don't then turn the conversation into something boring, either. You're building rapport with the girl by showing you're not needy, that you're not hanging off her every text/comment etc. You're showing her you've got a life outside of her, and that when you've got the time, you can make her laugh and feel good.

Basically - the key is to keep her wanting more. Never, ever give her too much. You need balance; ignore her and you're right - she'll forget about you. Suffocate her with texts/comments and whatever else, she'll flick you away because she prefers some breathing space.

Thanks dude. I kind of did that last night im thinking as I told her about a girl i met in Costa that looked like her

She goes "haha how rude! is costa ur mating ground or something? U seem to chat to or get chatted up by a lot of women! xx"

Not sure if thats a jealous text or not......

It is. You just killed her by saying the girl looked like her. Otherwise she probably would have asked you "is she pretty?"

Great advice Twistn, see I didnt reply to her text for a day and a half and when I did text she replied in literally 2 minutes so reckon ur very right. Going to leave it for 3 days I reckon, difficulty is she lives 30 mins away so never going to just bump into her which is a shame.

Lets just hope i haven't come across as too needy, which is funny as thats never me!

Cheers dude