Ok i just want to say hi and that I'm new here as most of you can tell and I have much to learn and many suggestions to take. Im 19 and the girl is my age as well. Any help is welcomed just let me know what yall think. I dont know much of the slang or lingo so just bear with me because imanewbie.

I have recently been trying to get to know this girl and getting her into the dating range. I have already had a few mess ups on sealing this one already but i get nervous and intimidated at times. Some girls are just harder to read than others. I met her sitting next to me in my history class last year and I would rate her an HB 8.5 or so. I would call her girlfriend material for sure though because shes got the look and I like what shes got so far. Im having trouble getting to that next level of getting to know her though. We have partied and hung out previous to this though.

Here's what happened last week. I asked her to a movie and as I've been reading the forums, I dunno how good of an idea that would have been. I do realize that i noticed some of the IOIs like her playing with her hair and stuff but anyways we saw the new Halloween. So about a fourth into the movie i said something corny to try to put my arm around her and just moved in. It was something like "can i use that shoulder as an arm rest" but i dont know if she even understood me. I had my arm around her though but it didnt seem very comfortable so a few minutes later i take it away and put the arm rest up. About three fourths of the movie in we had been quitlely chatting here and there and i eventually just go ahead and grab one of her hands to hold that was almost in between her knees. That went ok because we get some of the kino goin on and its ok. I tried to make effort for kino before and after the movie but couldnt tell if i was getting much positive feedback. So I take her home gave her a hug and peaced out. She said she was going to one city to party and i was going to another the opposite way to do the same.

I was mad though that I never made the move to get the kiss of course because i didnt know when to or if it was the right time or maybe i just didnt do a good enough job that night. What could or should I have done to make it happen? What should i try to do next time we hang out? Party or date or lunch or what? I dunno how its gonna work but Im determined to make it happen.

Any suggestions or links or any kind of readings would be appreciated.
thanks.

what books have you read? Mystery method, magic bullets, the game? many of your questions can be answered in great detail by reading those book and from reading your post i would venture to say you have not. there are TONS of good blogs and sites for PUA material. here are two that I read frequently

http://sinnsofattraction.blogspot.com/2 ... chive.html
http://www.captainjackpua.blogspot.com/

and this site has everything you should need to get started
http://www.seductiontuition.com/parkblv ... ction.html

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CaptinAmerica,


First off.. If this was your first date... Not a wise selection... It is very common to have the movie pop into your head as a suitable first date, its easy, its affordable, and you may get some small cuddling, and kissing happening... but what you lose is the opporunity to talk to each other... Van Wilder said it best... First dates are interviews.... not only do you have to to impress her, she also has to show you her value and impress you... NOW how can you do that if you guys don' communicate?

In the future I agree with my friend posting above me review the links he provided..and think wisely about scene selection... ask yourself what do i want to achieve from this date? KINO, IOI's, KISS Close, NEGGING, etc..

Also, think outside the box... be creative with your dates... if you do have to have a movie date.. i suggest the drive-in...

Anyway, lets start there and if you ahve some more questions we can work through them together... I am here for my man...


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