Hi I`m new here!
I have been reading a lot about this stuff and am very fascinated by it all - never been great at talking with girls at all. I`m not bad looking I guess and on some occassions I get girls approaching me but it startles me so much that I just come across as an absolute bore (but when I`m with friends I am the centre of attention!)

Anyway, last week I went to a strip club and had a dance etc of this girl. This is the jist of it:
Stripper approaches...
"hi, wanna dance?"
ME: "not right now, I`m waiting for my friend" (i start to back away)
She then tries to convince me but I`m not into it.
HER: "what star sign are you?"
ME: "Virgo...you?"
HER: "capricorn"
ME: "ah..that means you`re a goat!" - (was this a good neg?)
She laughs.

I then tell her I am there to study the psychology of dancers and how they manipulate customers and then she gets a little uneasy at first and then relaxes, then tells me some things she has learned. And then she filcks her hair back showing her neck.
ME: "I thought we were just talking and you just filcked your hair back...you`re attracted to me"
She ignored it and started talking about something else.
Eventually I give in and she gives me a dance meanwhile telling me that I "make her melt" etc, then asks when I`m coming back as I`m about to leave.

Went out last night and made pitiful efforts in 3 places to open and hold a conversation (in fact about 4 girls flocked to me at one point to which I came across as completely dull), and I was absolute shit!

Went to strip club, saw same stripper and spoke to her for a bit and we got onto healthy eating (?!).
ME: I bet you run, excercise eat healthy etc...
HER: Not really, I`ve got a little bit of fat on me...look..." (as she stroked her thigh)
ME: Well I`m not allowed to touch you so I can`t tell.
HER: Would you like to touch me?
ME: Yes.
HER: Then here`s my number we should take a walk on the beach!

I`ve texted her to make sure it was real and it is.

Now I now I wasnt the smoothest of operators seeing as it was my first night but how do you think I did and WHAT THE HELL DO I DO NEXT?!

Cheers!

first off u better not seem needy...if she really is a stripper she has guys on her all
the time that she really dosent like staring at her or saying dumb things like ''hey mami''
she gave you her number because u managed 2 not seem creepy or needy and like a cool
normal guy...try making your txt quick like "anything interesting going on today" and "anything exciting"
remember to take as long 2 reply as her so if she takes ten minutes 2 reply you take 12 min never reply to quick you'll seem needy...only reply quick if your gonna meet her that day and shes just tell you were the hell your at lol anyways be cool pretend shes a ugly girl and act as if she is...in no time she'll be spread out laying on your bed good luckk smikes

SNEEKZ

Strippers giving out their number can be a great tactic for them to get repeat visits so don't get too excited. However I think they can be a great way for you to practice talking to girls in a comfortable environment.

I'm in your position, I'm good looking too and have had girls approach me but I ended up being boring through worrying about what to do.

However, I've learned to find the mindset that makes me behave awesome. It's a "worry-free, let's find the next fun thing to do, I've got the gift that lets me talk to women and everyone" mindset. It's a very noodly loose feeling, and remembering that your JOB is to head towards the hottest girls in the room. The wrong feeling is a tense sort of a feeling, even if you're sitting in a relaxed pose, you can feel walls around you and something in your muscles locking up your joints, and you naturally get segregated out of everything.

The more times you try for it, the more times you succeed than not, and even though you may still fall into it, each time you have a better chance of remembering what it feels like and getting your mind there. You start thinking of fun things to say and do.

For her, it's what you talked about.. sure you increased with a few flirty phrases - but it's the fact that you didn't putter over the fact she is a stripper and actually talked to her about something other than her line of work. She puts up hundreds of AFCs who are usually pretty sleazy 'anti-attractive' guys.

Bet she's refreshed by someone who isn't total slime... If you get to the point of meeting her again out with her work. Disregard the fact she is a stripper and talk to her a human to human level. Employ Cocky+Funny, and you'll be surprised at how little negging you'll need to do.. if any (bar playful teasing).

A guy I work with has been dating a stripper recently, and not to generalize - but they often do have a kid. SO they are looking for a bit of stability in their life.

How does an LTR (6months+) sound to you?

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Thanks for all the tips guys. She has texted me a couple of times since Friday and has now asked me to go to the cinema tonight (she texted me VERY early this morning) and I replied with "I;ll have a look at movie times" kinda thing. SHIT she just called while I was typing this and I cant understand her damn strong Romanian accent! lol. So we are meeting at the cinema...Anyone know any good negs in Romanian?
I have actually just come out of a 3 year relationship with someone who was "the one" so I am wanting to improve on all this stuff and tend to fuck things up pretty quickly with my "bore skills" though I'm not boring I just tend to go silent and then go..." so..what do YOU do?" After the "hey, lemme get your opinion on something - what do you think to...." they reply and I just stand there like a tool nodding my head...pause...and then go..."So, come here a lot?" lol Ho do you continue/keep the interest level? I have done this in such a long time I`m freaking out!! And, relax...

Wow, high five, you really have a stripper interested in you.

The key is mindset man. If you are relaxed and looking to have fun, you can respond to any notion that comes into your head. (If you're worrying, you won't get any notions - period.)

The way to get into this mindset is a scare tactic. Think of how shitty all the other times went, till you get yourself in a "fuck it, go for broke" mindset. So that you do and say anything to avoid that shitty situation.

Ok, so I went on a date with her. Turns out shes pretty normal...with a wierd side...she wouldn`t kiss me because it was a full moon and she said you shouldnt start anything new on a full moon. We chatted til early hours of the morning and I took her home. Now, I don`t want a relationship - I just got out of a 3 yr relationship about a month ago! I get a strong feeling she wants one.

Im not sure if she`s gonna turn into a vampire or something (she is from Romania) and the whole full moon reference, when I tell her its not going to happen. I dont want to be eaten.

I have arranged to see her tomorrow - any advice? How do PUA`s tell the girl that they are not interested in a LTR?

You already have your answer that she is after something a little more serious.
I've heard of this silly superstition before, apparently it jinx's anything starting on that day - which is a load of crap.. I've met and sustained relationships with girls I've met at Full Moon parties before. (Btw - for anyone wanting to release their inner spirit this summer, search "Rainbow Gathering Finland", it's a hippy festival being hosted in my native country. It is literally hundreds of gorgeous women (and men - for you BombShellBrunette) being free with themselves.)

This one quoted sentence alone point toward LTR. If she wanted something more casual/physical she would have taken your scrawny butt and rode it to mars and back!

-Illusionist-

P.s Hang in there for a little while longer, could quite happily see her for a few weeks then try and work into something more casual.

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It's very likely that she's superstitious since I know a friend of mine from Romania also believes the same thing about vampire.

Since you don't want a LTR, your best bet would be to escalate physically and sexually with her during your next meet, as long as the date is not one of her superstitious days. Throw out lots of sexual comments and sexual statements of interest towards her. Also try to arrange logistics appropriately so that you can get a lay on the date while the buying temperature is high.

Good luck!