so a couple weeks ago i met this girl at my buddy's party, friend of a friend, number closed. my roomate found her on facebook and i sent her a message last weekend seeing what her plans were and she seemed set on trying to meet up, even though it didn't happen. i called and suggested she came to one of my friend's parties and she said she might make it out, never did, however, she lives very far from me and there's no easy way to get over to where i live without driving.

just trying to find a suitable day 2 before she loses interest. i was thinking something weekday along the lines of "hookah and homework" at my place, or that she needs to "come help me cook a dinner", etc. delicate situation i don't want to mess up or sound like a creep or anything as when i met her i only really talked to her for about 15 minutes so it's basically starting from scratch with little comfort, but interest at the least.

these sound alright? my friend i know her through seldom has parties so that option is out and it's up to me. let me know, thanks!

You might have already lost her interest. Straight up inviting her out usually will not work so well. Talking about somthing great you are going to be doing and then getting her to ask you more about it works better. After she asks you about what, where your going you could say something like "ya if you wana come I'm sure you would be able to" this will show that you don't really care either way, DHV. About finding her on face book, be careful with that. For some girls that you come off as being creepy, and if you are seen as being creepy or referred to that way you are already done. I would back down, regroup, and set it up so you see her again "face to face", restructure a stronger frame and then take it from there. Go to a party she will be at and talk to the hottest girl in there, you don't have to fuck her, just use her for the jealousy factor. Good luck bro.

this is what i did try to do, something along the lines of "this is where i'm going to be if you're in the area". not expressing too much interest or care and when she didn't show, i didn't try calling/texting. her roomate also called me back to get the address saying they "might stop by" which was reassuring.

if its hard to get to your place, why not meet her in college during the weekday. Just tell her your gonna go get some coffee/tea and that she is welcome to tag along. Or if you don't want to spend a dime (on yourself) or whatever check if by your college or in it there are parks, gym, bookstore, etc. Not only will this seem harmless, but once you have her in one of those places and have begun to attract and/or seduce you can later try and transition/move the date to your place or somewhere else.