Oke i have a problem:

I know this girl for a while but always if i talk to her it is at a party or in a club and there are a lot of her friend around...

So i got her number and we ve been texting for over 2 weeks.
I asked her to go and have a drink with me this week but she replied:
Sorry i am really busy this week, but we will have a drink in the club (the place where i usually see her)

I don't want to have a drink with her in the club because its the same as always

What shall i text back? How should i handle this further on?

Thanx,

-serenity-

well i dont think having her friends around is a bad thing... if u want her u must get her friends first and u can always drag her of the group for the drink... a club usualy have more than one bar, go to further way one

yeah thats true!

But i am wondering: i she really busy every night in the week or is she afraid of alone time with me?

It's not hard to get her alone in a setting like that if you already know it.

The key is in the attraction phase you are obviously stuck on.

Trying building attraction then invite her to get something to eat at a vendor outside around the club for some rapport and comfort building.

Once that is done. Invite for a day2. A girl is never busy to set up a day2. If a girl is attracted to you she will want to you see and make it her priority.

Maybe she is, maybe she's not. She could be doing what most guys do in this community which is act like you're super busy when you actually aren't. Don't forget, girls like to play the game also.

-Sleye

Sounds like she just told you that she isnt interested in creating a deeper connection with you. Fine as it is but dont go further kinda.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

That message translates to - come back to the club and make me feel like I want to hang out with you more. You can't convince me over text.

seems likes she not ready for that kind of a commitment...i.e a one on one "date"

u need to get her to say yes to really low commitment stuff then as she gets comfortable, try and build some more attraction then gradually ask for higher commitment..if u can get her saying yes to really small stuff, then gradually build it up, she will say yes to higher commitment stuff, like a day2...this is all from style, obviously in my own words but his idea!

at the club with her friends is a good start, coz she is obviously comfortable there cos she knows the place and the people!...

like flury said, u can try and break of the group to another bar, to buy YOU a drink, it is very low commitmentand she will prob feel comfortable...

then maybe after u go back to the group for a bit try and isolate her in a quiter part of the club or a seat and do some routines...so that wud be asking a lil bit more commitment ( to leave the group altogether)

i also agree with M_j_f on that ur prob stuck in the attrction phase, not sure how long uve know her but if u havnt build attraction well enough u may be in the freinds zone...

i am still a newbie guys but this is what im thinking, feel free to critisis/ improve what i have written!

good luck serenity- hope it helps a bit!