This past Monday I went to get a smoothie. I got the girl's number who was working there. So Thursday I call her around 7 pm, and left a message. She texted me around 8:30 telling me she was at the gym. We do a few texts back and forth. Then she told me she was going to bed because she has to get up early.

I think Monday is a great day for a day 2. It's a holiday, so I'm off of work and school, yet most places are still open. I was wondering how I should go about doing it. I called once, but she texted me. So should I text her? How would I open? or call her? then what do I say?

background info. We chatted a bit while she was getting my smothie ready, and I ended with going direct, and getting her number that way. Also I think that she might have been shy or something, because one of her texts asked how old I am, and wanted to know how old I thought she was because she thought that I may have believed her to be older than she actually was. (Possibly she's somewhat interested, but isn't too sure?) We made each other guess. I'm 21, she's 18.

Well you're obviously older so in my opinion she's waiting on you to make most if not all the moves.

She responded to you via text, she seems shy if she didnt answer your call so text her and be direct. Don't ask her anything, tell her.

Say: "so i was thinking of grabbing some coffee monday and ive decided you're coming with me." Something along that line.

-Sleye

Go in with a flirt/funny story then transition into a date...

younger girls especially at 18 if they are shy, need pushing. high-school she will have high-school boyfriends. she may feel slightly uncomfortable transitioning between a school day boyfriend to a boyfriend in the real world. so really make the moves. don't over do it though, you'll seem controlling. use the first posts suggestion. ^

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OK, So I went with Sleye's suggestion.

I texted "Hey, I'm off this Monday and I feel like bowling. I challenge you."

about 45 minutes later I receive from her "I'm actually not off this Monday. i may be open in the evening, but im not sure yet."

Then about 30 minutes later, I texted "Evenings are fine"
(Maybe not the best thing to say)

then about 50 minutes later she texts "Well im not sure if mine is free, but ill let you know.


What can I do to save this?

Yeah that first msg was a bit of a blow-off, "evenings are fine" probably wasn't the best response to that.

Sounds like you will need to build more comfort and flirting over the phone, and ending the phone call yourself, without setting up a date.

Sounds like she wasn't that keen on meeting up with you again after your initial contact when you got the number anyway.

Keep in contact with her on the side, and focus on other girls...

there is a risky move you can pull. if your pissed off that she's not responding how you would like, and are considering just forgetting it, try:

Her "I'm not sure if im free."

"Yeh hanging out isn't a good idea x"

she'l either ask why? be like "but i want too..." or be like "yeh, your right" or "no response" least this way you are not coming off to pushy and it kinda puts it on her why your not going to hang out

but first try build comfort over phone... what he said ^

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Not sure what u have going on so u should just cancel - I dont give out this opportunity very often

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