My ex is coming back from being out of state for about a year and a half. We've maintained an open, no strings attached long distance relationship until she decided that age difference is a problem. It never was before because she was still in an early stage of her career.

Now that she is advancing, she sees our relationship as irrational and probably wants to play her field.

Since our break-up, we have continued to contact each other. Sometimes there will be moments where we talk about missing each other and how much we'd like to fuck. This tells me that the essential interests are still there. She is just caught in an illusion of the future that our relationship won't work out.

I have been moving on and dating other people, but I do not enjoy the company of the people I'm dating more than this girl so I'd like to still be with her in the same no strings attached manner. I just need a way to pull her back in without building uncomfortable expectations.

As far as telling her how I feel, I have expressed to her that I really want to fuck her when she comes back. I haven't pleaded with her or anything and she usually goes along with me if I send her a dirty text message. So I'm sure she still wants to fuck. She just doesn't want to think that we're back into a relationship..or that she's dirty if she maintains something with me while trying to date.

I really need some suggestions for this highly complicated scenario!!!