so I had a day 2 with my first hb9. it wasn't suppose to happen, but I sort of made it work.

My hb9 and I had plans for Wednesday to go out for sushi. She ended up having class that day and said she couldn't go. I went anyway with another friend and asked her what the best sushi place was. Now she wanted to go after class. We didn't make it on time to get sushi, so we relocated to a red lobster.

The conversations were flowing and the "sparks" were definitely flying. After the dinner we relocated to a Denny's to have coffee and talk for hours. Having my friend there was a help because it took some focus off of her so that she wouldn't think I was going through measures to see her.

After a really good night of getting to know each other more, we made out and she said "this definitely doesn't count as date # 2 by the way." I asked her when will it be and she replied "I don't know. I'll call you." And that was the end of that date.

I went home that night feeling like I had made real progress. I even felt myself beginning to genuinely like this girl.

She texted me the next day about a political science presentation she attended at her school. I told her I wasn't current on politics so she should come enlighten me. She agreed and came to see me for the second time from an hour away.

When she showed up, I had a lot of friends over just hanging out and having a good time. We smoked and talked for a little bit amongst them, but it was short lived because they weren't that interested in politics at that moment. I pulled her away to show her the van that my band tours in which may seem obvious, but it is quite impressive. We talked and made out for a little and then went back inside after it got too cold for her.

I suggested we go for a walk since nothing else was there to entertain. As we walked down the street, more of my friends started to arrive at my house and called me back up so we walked back to join them. We sat around my living room and talked some more. She was getting a bit left out so I knew I needed to find something to regain the "spark" we had the night previous. It wasn't as easy this time around.

She asked me if I had heard of a graffiti artist called Bansky. I said "no let's go to my room and look him up on my laptop. That we did. And like the first night she came down, we started making out and feeling up on each other, but she wasn't being as excited about it as the first time. I could tell that she was comfortable around me, but not so much as she was the first night.

I'd try to freeze out but then she'd lead me on again, so I'd just repeat but it wasn't effective enough. My freeze out probably should've been held out longer, but I feared giving off the appearance of being disappointed or bothered. It's difficult to freeze out without being condescending in any way.

Eventually she fell asleep and began to snore. I remained awake and listened to music on my laptop. She'd poke her head up every now and then and tell me to lay down with her. I would lay down but then get back up because I wasn't tired and it wasn't cuddling that I had in mind anyway.

She was greedily taking up space on the bed. I tried to push her over. She let out a distressful moan so I picked her up and moved her so that I could fit. As the night turned to morning, I felt her hand move up and down my stomach. She was being a lot more openly affectionate then the night before. She talked on her phone for a few minutes which kind of told me that she was losing interest overall.

After a few more minutes of talking, I suggested she get back home before it got too late. I walked her out to her car, we kissed for a few seconds and then she left. I texted her a few hours later with what my friend called a "ping."

It read as follows: "thx for the politics update:) hope u get ur new car with the giant red ribbon on it."

(she's getting a new car for her birthday tomorrow)

I don't feel like I totally screwed things up, but like I said, I feel mostly she is just losing interest. Not sure what to do really. I think that I'm going to leave her alone for a week and let her wonder why I haven't called for another date. But then I risk her losing interest by my lack of effort. I might text her tomorrow night to ping her a happy birthday, but I don't know because I don't want to look like I'm trying to remain in her space.

I'm sure that we'll go out on another date, but how can I win back her interest and get that spark back so that I don't become a "friend?"

Suggestions? Criticism?

learn the push pull method. Don't ask me how. Just figure it out. Thats what you need to work on. If you can stay focused and plow through the barriers that are going to stop you from learning about push pull, then you will get laid. You need push pull.

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Walk Hard

text her "so what are you getting me for your birthday?"
Also, next time you go out, ask her "so what kind of movies you got at your place?" in an effort to get to her place. Or tell her that it's time that she cook for you (at your place or her place).
In other words, you need to isolate her in a private place before she will pull down her pants. Better to do this sooner than later; you don't want your dates to become predictable, boring, or in the friend-zone before you fclose.

She was asking you to lay down in your bed with her and you wouldn't why again? Well, I'm sure you did everything you could with what she was willing to do. She's comfortable sleeping in your bed now. Screw being predictable or whatever, invite her over again and this time do it right. Take her to your bedroom before she's too tired to do anything. If a girl is laying in your bed and doesn't want to go all the way, either she's on the rag or you're not turning her on enough.