I don't know if this happens to anyone else, but why is it that in all my encounters with women, I always have to be the sexual aggressor. I always hear of people telling me stories of how the girl was the one to push the envelope when they were alone. But as for me, girls never go for the kiss unless I initiate it; they never ask for sex, and if I don't initiate anything sexual they will leave and then tell me later over the phone that they would have wanted to do it. Which makes no sense! Why not just kiss me or take me to the bedroom!!! What is it that I have to do to get women to sometimes be the sexual aggressor and come to me when they need some instead of having me do it every single damn time! I hate feeling like a horn dog always trying to have sex with the girl, it would be nice every once in a while that they try to sleep with me. Thoughts?

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Win like you've done it before, and loose like you enjoy it for a change.

First and foremost, not every girl has the capacity to be aggressive. Many girls that are aggressive are the kind you probably wouldn't want to have sex with. Lastly, I know some of these dudes lie. If you're making it with these girls, you're doing something right, so don't worry about these stories you hear.

This isn't my strongest area, but I've had a few experiences where I was not the aggressor. Each time, the perception was that I was a hot commodity, and that if the girl didn't act fast, I would be gone. This was communicated through body language, negs, IODs, and all that other PUA jargon.

Try talking to your target for a few minutes. Suggest interest, but don't confirm it. Then, talk to an equally hot (but slightly less desirable) girl near her. Repeat. Come back to your target eventually. If she has some nosy friends, disarm them. Stick around with your girl a bit longer now and build a lot of attraction. If she's got aggressive genes, the thought of you going and getting snatched by another girl may make her a little more sexually aggressive (alcohol probably helps too ). Act like you've got somewhere to go, but don't say it. She will sense it if it's communicated right.

I realize everything I just said depends entirely on the girl being aggressive. That's probably the truth about it. Aggressive girls will get aggressive if you give them a reason to be.

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"He who makes an idiot of himself gets rid of the pain of being a genius."

Women have less self-esteem than men in general. How many gorgeous women have emotional issues or mental problems? In my experience, all of them. The hotter the girl, the higher the crazy. Women always have issues about their looks. Does my ass look big in this? If I'm naked, he'll see how flabby my arms are etc. Because they're so insecure, they can't be aggressive in the bedroom.

If you want a sexually aggressive woman, you are looking for somebody that is comfortable with her body, comfortable with her sexuality, comfortable naked and not afraid to try new things. She is also likely to be independent, opinionated, intelligent and emotionally stable. The combination of these things are rare enough individually but to find them in one person is difficult. I'm not saying that they don't exist, but they are few and far between.

I have been known to be aggressive in the bedroom but only when I really like and trust my partner. I suggest seeking out european women (as they tend to be more comfortable with their bodies sexually), australian women (as we are really laid back and casual about most things) or older women (they know what they want).

Happy hunting!