Without going into too many details, I'll just keep it short. I met this girl at a party 2 weeks ago. She initiated, we had a great conversation, other guys and girls tried to interrupt but she just brushed them aside and continued talking to me. Things were going great. But then she had to talk to some of her friends, and was MIA for the rest of the night. I saw her again as I was leaving the party, where she was just waiting outside with her friends (odd, but didn't think about it) and I number closed. This was a Saturday.

Flash forward next Saturday. I give her a call at around 5PM, with the intention of grabbing a drink or maybe some food - I don't know, but I did it early. She didn't pick up, so I left a concise VM: "Hey, it's _____. Give me a call back." It was a vague VM which I am a big fan of, especially vague because she didn't have her phone on her when she gave me her number and so there was a chance that she didn't remember who I was.

She texted me back at around 7:30PM, telling me she was at dinner and asking me what I was doing that night. Nice, she's interested. I tell her I'm going to go to a bar with some friends. She asks "where?" also, very nice. I tell her the name of the bar, and then I mention that some of our mutual friends are going to be at this other club. She tells me she's going there, I tell her I'm just going to get my buddy a drink because it's his bday, and I'll be down.

I arrive, and she is elated to see me. Gives me a big hug, and we dance immediately. It's going great, and I'm very happy. But she starts to disappear. I see her talking to one of her friends (a different one this time), and she tells me she has to leave. So I say "Bye" and I'm about to head out myself.

As I leave the club, I see her and I wave "goodbye" but she calls me back. So I go back, and she asks me if I want to smoke with her. I tell her I would, but I don't have any with me. We're with our mutual friends now, and as we leave some of our mutual friends ask me and another friend of mine (who was about to leave with me) to come over. This is where logic would tell me to just go home, and to save this for another night but the idiot part of me told me "Maybe, just MAYBE I might get lucky tonight."

I decide to head to her place, with our mutual friends. Everyone's in their PJ's, it's like pretty late. I begin to regret it immediately. She is luckily still dressed, and wants to go to another club down the block. It's 3:30AM by the way, but I see this as a good way for us to dance again finally in private. We don't get in because they're about to close, and she is upset. She kept complaining about it which I didn't like, but I didn't really do well at consoling her. Oh well.

At this point she is starting to yawn, so I'm done. I tell her I'm going to leave, as I hug her she asks me "Why are you leaving?" I'm like "... it's pretty late" and she's like "sorry it couldn't have been more eventful" to which I respond by pointing to her roommates (our mutual friends) doing karate kicks and saying "with them, it's always eventful." I tell her I'll see her again next weekend, and she's like "definitely." So I start to head out, she then yells out "WAIT! Who is hungry? There's a pizza place that's open for another 10 minutes." I take this as another good sign that she wants me around just a little bit longer, but I end up leaving anyway.

So I feel that although I stayed way too fucking long, and didn't have much to show for it and allowed Murphy's Law to take over that I was still in relatively good terms with her.

Cut to last night, when I decided to call her. It was a Wednesday night, and I wanted to call her and be spontaneous and ask for a drink. I called her at around 9, she didn't pick up. I didn't leave a voicemail this time, because I expected her to text me back. But she didn't text me back. She didn't call me back either. I am baffled. I thought we were on good terms, but I don't know how to take this. Since I called, the ball is essentially in her court. If she doesn't get back to me, I'll try to give her another call next week/weekend but as of right now, I'm in the dark. What are your thoughts?

shit man im exactly where you are. i figured, whatever.. her loss. and from your story she was quite in control of what to do, ie. lets go clubbing at 3:30, lets go eat, lets do this and that.. and obviously she expected you to stay but you left and she was like "fuck this guy.. whatever" you know what i mean? you should have been the one in control.. but i dunno.. im not a pro at this stuff so i dont know if you wanna listen to me :b

give the women a chance to miss you, back off for a week/ week and a half. Then go out one night for a few hours and have alot of fun with her. Then again disappear for a few days, keep that interest high! Also i wouldn't say "see you this weekend" don't tell her when she's gonna see you, keep her guessing. Just say "see you around"

Thanks for the input, guys. It is true, that she did seem to be in control of various situations. She has that kind of personality, as evidenced by how upset she was about not getting into the club. By "upset,' I mean that she was complaining at length about how the club was small anyway and how there are better ones that she's been in. Yeah, she's that type of girl.

Although, I did like her a lot initially, I did get the feeling that she wasn't too interested in getting to know me. If anything, it was a physical attraction and I think she just wanted to hook up - which is fine with me. She's a few years younger than I am, and she's just starting her college career so it's natural for her to want that.

I also agree that I should not have specified when I'd see her again, but to have kept her guessing. I haven't made contact since, but I intend to do so again sometime this week or this weekend. There is another party that she will be attending this weekend with our mutual friends, but in my experience, too much partying with mutual friends never leads to hook-ups. There is too much buddy-buddy going around for us to ditch them and hook-up, at least in my experience. I would much rather see her in private.

She always expressed how she wanted to smoke, and although I have never used this as an avenue to hook up, there are many guys who do. I could just call her sometime this week and ask her to smoke and/or get a drink. If she doesn't respond this time, then it's no big deal. I have other prospects.

Alright, I settled on a text this time. This was early in the evening during my class. It went something like this "Hey hope all is well. I'm about to take a much needed break, you up for a quick drink tonight?" My intention was to make it a short little meeting so we could talk more, and so she'd be more comfortable with me. She doesnt' respond for ~2 hrs., but then sends me "Heyy! i would but i'm going out at ten tonight, so i don't think i'll have time. i just got back from the gym haha".

So, she actually answered this time which is nice. But without offering any alternative to meet again - bad. I thought I was doing well, but it seems like I'm out. Oh well, fuck it. Moving on.


Edit:
What is everyone else's opinion on the matter? Logic tells me to let her go, but she is really hot and I would love for this to work out somehow. Feedback?