Hey fellas, been gaming this HB9 for a while now and need expert help. About two months ago we went out a few times and hooked up each time and everything was good. Slowly I started to mess up (failing shit tests, sending flowers, buying things etc.) and eventually went into a 2 month freeze out.

Just recently she contacted me and we started talking a bit. I saw her this weekend at a party and we hung out the whole time talking with a lot of kino. It started to be time to go so I asked her to come with me and she said she couldn’t because she was their with her friends. So I went for the k-close and she kissed me briefly then told me to stop because her friends were around so I left.

Next day I texted her to see if she wanted to get dinner and she said she couldn’t because she was still with friends. I haven’t talked to her since.

So here are my questions. 1) What does it mean that she told me not to kiss her because her friends were around? 2) I know she is going to contact me soon (because she always does when I don’t contact her) and I just feel like the only reason she does is to reassure herself that she has complete control over me, then when I fail she flakes or ignores me. How do I stop failing her shit tests and get it to a situation where she WANTS to hang out with me? If I can get into that situation I have no problem closing.

Just to give you an idea, she’ll either text or e-mail me a question or a story and I’ll respond fairly quickly (because in my mind it’s stupid to not respond to something you see) and then she’ll never respond back. Anybody know a way I can flip this on her and turn it into a date this weekend or something?

THANKS GUYS!!!

Hi don,

1 = is an obvious case of ASD
2 = try to ignore or change the subject when being shit tested.

By the looks of it, she seems interested, but wants to build some more comfort with you.

Try to meet up with her again, casual. Specifically ask to be with her AND her friends. You can even throw in some of your own friends ( no AFCs or overconfident sexy girls). Make sure you have a nice night full of DHV and don''t try any fancy PU shit or isolation until you get some stronger signals.

good luck

greetz

Bucc

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Girls don't want to seem like sluts in front of their friends, so don't expect anything while she's with them.

I would say to wait a little while longer to respond to texts. It may seem stupid to you to not respond to something you see, but the thing with texts is that they are just messages that your phone picks up. If you have an attractive lifestyle, you will be busy throughout your day. Don't appear to be someone who just waits by the phone and can answer anything. You won't be able to if you're in class, at work, having lunch or dinner with friends, at the gym, volunteering somewhere, etc. In these situations, while you may be able to slide a text through it seems childish whenever someone does it. The text shouldn't be more important than the various other things that you do throughout your day, so you should get to it on your own time.

If you feel that she needs to reassure herself that she is in control, don't let her do that. Don't contact her for a few days, and if she contacts you tell her something like you have friends from out of town and that you'll be busy that weekend. Remember push-and-pull, don't be that guy that's always available. Be busy. Operate on your terms.