So I met this girl in the bookstore on Sunday. (I went direct on her, and it went pretty well. after getting her number she told me twice to call her so we can hang out) I called her the next day. (some people say to wait longer, others say otherwise. Oh well.) Maybe I called too soon, because she seemed a little bored, or annoyed. She actually put me on hold for a minute, because apparently I called her right as she was finished eating. I asked if this was a bad time, and she said no. so we have some small chit chat. The tone in her voice still seemed bored. (I felt unsure, but I've gone this far, I'm not turning back now!) I ask her out to coffee this Thursday (Yes I asked her instead of inviting her. So sue Me!) right then her voice changed and she sounded excited. She asked for the details, Then we found a time that works. And before getting off the phone she says "have fun with your friend's. You stay out of trouble!" (Earlier I told her I was going out with my friends in a bit, so I couldn't talk long)

So basically, what I'm asking is. Should I send her a text tomorrow (Wednesday) or the day of (Thursday) to confirm it? Or should I just not talk to her in any way, and just meet her there? If so, what should I say?

If you met a girl somewhere in public, then calling her the next day is usually the best time. Like that she won't lose interest as your still fresh in her mind..

I'd say text her Thursday, and don't even ask her if she's going to come.. that gives her the option of saying no.. Send a text along the lines of "Wow, i'm having a really stressful day.. can't wait for coffee,, i will be at starbucks (for example) at around 8, c u there"... i'd say send it a good four hours before..

I'm actually in the exact same boat. Met a girl on Saturday, called on Monday, set up coffee for Thursday. All the connections are done, spent the whole night with her at the club, dancing making out etc... before ultimately being c-blocked by her friend. So, I'm not worried about the actual date, but I was thinking if I should text her before as well.

I actually like the idea of texting and not asking, but do you guys think it is wise to tell her you are excited/looking forward to the date?

Thanks for the input Loyalknicksfan! I actually see her at 1:30, so Texting 4 hours earlier and saying I'm having a stressful day doesn't sound like it would work. Would a good morning text seem needy or awkward? What if around 11 I texted something along the lines of," Woah I had such a weird dream last night! Looking forward to coffee at 1:30. See you there!" Maybe mentioning a weird dream could spark her curiosity, then we can talk about dreams and lucid dreaming on our date (I'm really interested in that subject) But then again, she might think that I was alluding to having a dream about her, and might get creeped out.

I was wondering the same thing K_A85. If I say I'm excited, or looking forward to the date, would it come off as needy? Or would she see it as a mutual interest, and be happy to hear (read) that?

no dude... don't worry about that... she won't think your dreaming about her.. very unlikely... just make sure its funny... or one thing that works alot for me is that i txt "I just went up and said hi to someone that looks exactly like you.. it was soo embarressing." it always gets responses because girls like stuff that concerns them.. ... that always gets replies..