Here's the deal...

I met a girl through some a girl friend of mine this weekend. Awesome girl...definitely FB/mltr material (let's call her HBwtf).

And here's what happened...

We meet, I'm immediately c/f, making her give me 3 reasons why I should take a shot with her at the pre-game house.

From there, it's on. IOI's within 2 minutes and here we go. We break away from the group, walk to the bar ourselbes, get there, find a back booth and connect for the next 2 hours.

Around 1, her phone starts blowing up with texts and 2 minute later, mid-conversation she gets up and takes off. I'm like, OK, whatever, weird, but I'm clearly in..

One of my boys come up to me right after she left and tells me who she is (background stuff). Turns out her CURRENT boyfriend is this douchebag I went to high school with who goes to my school.

And she just ran off because he had just showed up to the bar (and like I said, he's a douchebag... verbally abusive).

So, I'm walking around the bar, she finds me in another spot, we start flirting again, and her boyfriend comes up to us. We talk for a sec (neither of us saying what is clearly going on). After 30 seconds, I say, "All right, I'll see you guys later (as I squeeze her leg where no one sees)."

I start talking to other people for a little for 10 minutes until she comes out of nowhere, jumps in my lap, and we isolate again.

This goes on for another half hour, until bar closing time, when her boyfriend finds us together in the corner of the bar. He yells at her "we're leaving", she says she doesn't wanna go, this goes on for a minute until I step in and tell the dude, "look, if she doesn't want to go, you can't force her man."

He won't look or acknowledge me, pulls her by the arm, yanks her away. While they're walking away, she runs away from him back to me, he runs back, catches her, pulls her back, they leave.

WTF.

The next morning, I'm chilling with the girl friend of mine who introduced us and she shows me their whole text convo from last night they were having while HBwtf.

The convo was basically HB telling her "I am so into WorkEthic right now." "I have such a creepy crush on WorkEthic right now...I feel bad." "I'm so confused...OMG!."

LOL.

Then, I find out later that day (less than 24 hours from when all this happened) that HBwtf and her boyfriend broke up.

I am gonna give this chick some space for a few days...there's nothing to gain by contacting her this soon after breaking up, and I know I'm in anyways, so I'll wait til Wed or Thurs. (weekend time) to talk to her again.

AND I want to make sure she doesn't get back with douchebag bf. I need some pattern or paragraph-long statement to say to her solidify us, and anchor all the shit she went through with him and her's past.

What should I say?

I was thinking something like, " You know, it's funny how we can get so comfortable in certain situations because we've been there for so long, but because we get too comfortable, we don't even realize how unhappy we are. THEN, something different comes along and it's so great and *freeing* (her word when describing her values) and it lets us know how much better our situations can get, and it just feels so right."

And right as I finish that sentence, I kiss her.

Thoughts?

First off all, thanks everyone for your feedback

UPDATE: We flirt-text a little during the week. She got back together with her boyfriend Wednesday, she texts me to tell me that when she causes trouble, she rarely gets caught.

Thursday, we make plans to go to the mall on Friday.

Right before we leave, she calls and says she can't, it's just not right to her bf.

I play the friend card (which is still true, she's cool as hell), she says then she feels really silly, blah, blah, and I just assume plans are back on. But then she says we're just gonna have to re-schedule.

I was like all right, we'll see.

-end convo-

Clearly, she had too much time to think in the last 24 hours without seeing me and being able to bring out those attraction and comfort in person with her. She's not an idiot, she knows what's up and it's clearly hard for anyone to commit to plans with someone else like this when they're in a relationship without feeling like a bad person.

NOW, I will be seeing her maybe tonight and definitely tomorrow at a couple different parties (college) and her bf may/may not be there.

My plan is just gonna be to act totally cool, and proceed with game as nothing happened.

C/F, tell cool stories, kino, takeaways...bring out all of the emotions in her she should be feeling anyways. And then, phase-shift.

Sound about right?

-WorkEthic

hmm im not that experienced in the games technicalities but, i do know that troublesome relationships are always hard.

girls love the bad guys, and what makes things worse for you is, youre her friend now. also, youre her logical choice for a potential partner, thats good but also bad, because they always go illogical on you.

you say you want to work her emotions and anchor her? in this situation this could be very dangerous and may lead to LJBF. maybe.

i think there are two ways you can go about this.

1.play it cool and act uninterested for a while, wait till she texts you, then arrange to meet either that day/night, or some time very soon. spontaniety i find is a good way do avoid a FLAKE. but can be tricky also.

2. same as a above but initiate before her, ask her to meet you wherever, use a funny greeting of your choice, use kino immediately, walk/ talk with her about light hearted things, make her laugh etc you know all this lol

then move onto the bf, lightly. then, be bold and use the reverse psychology method, saying how much shed hate your good qualities, making it obvious youre being ironic. you may also consider saying things like "really? i thought you guys wouldve got married by now, you seem like such a good couple" which "could" make her reassess the situation. if she says "were not" you make the moves from there! or you could use the fact that she dumped him before as an initiator, remember, she doesnt know that you know it was for you! so, you can use the cocky funny approach n say "hey, did you break up with your bf?" "yeah..etc etc" "oh...*pause* you broke up with him for me didnt you?" *smiling* thatl put her a little off guard maybe, but, see which one best suits your situation. like i said, im fairly new to the game, thats just what i think ive learned so far, if its bollocks advice, tell me so, but make sure you educate me afterwards, otherwise i learn nothing lol