Hi all

I recently met a woman on a train. Turns out she lives about an hour away from me, but that's not an insurmountable problem. We had a cool chat on the train, and swapped mobile numbers. I messaged her to let her know my number, and asked her how the long journey she was on was going. She wrote some stuff back, and then the next day I told her that it had been nice to meet her. (I cannot remember the precise details of the message, as I am currently living with an (ex) g/f who has no scruples about looking at my mobile phone - thus I delete messages practically immediately after writing/reading them.

Anyway, as said, I wrote to say that I had enjoyed her company (but didn't give her any, "You're the best woman I ever met" crap. However, as I remember, I said should she be around in my town, or vice versa, it'd be cool to meet for a coffee.

Well, today she messaged me pretty much as follows, "Thank you for the kind words. a few days ago I met a nice man and want to concentrate on him. all the best."

Now there are two ways I could interpret this. a) She's simply blowing me out coz she's not interested, or b) She's telling the truth, and there really is some new guy in her life. In any case, I am not sure what to do.

My thoughts were as follows: As she could be telling the truth, and this new guy is so new, it could be that she gets fed up with him pretty soon because she finds something about him that she doesn't like. If that should happen, she'd be free again. Assuming that that truly was the reason she doesn't want to take things further with me, then if he's out of the picture, then maybe I'd have a chance again. However, that may just be wishful thinking on my part (I am very 'wishful' - as she was really sweet, intelligent and friendly - I can't really fault her).

So, my question to the community would be as follows:
What, if anything should I write back to her? I would like to communicate that maybe I might be available (if she's lucky), should things not work out with the other guy. BUT I don't want to come across as a wuss, right.

I thought something like this: "Nice to hear from you. That's ok, I can soon find a woman/I meet nice women pretty frequently. If things don't work out with that guy though, you can still contact me - I don't bite/I might happen to be free. Maybe some time in the future then. Take care."

I am really not happy with this message. It doesn't convey well that she isn't the only potential g/f I could have, but if she's lucky she might get me should this other guy turn out to be an idiot.

Does anyone have a suggestion as to how to address this issue? What should I write? Or should I just let it drop?

I perhaps should add that I found her on FB, and she hasn't agreed to be friends. Probably simply coz of this 'new guy', right?

Any help would be appreciated. But preferably soon: I might need to write back to her.

Cheers for reading this.

Put her in your own friend zone. If she really does like this guy, then you've made a friend, and if she's hot she will probably have hot friends. If she likes you and is just playing with you, she will wonder why you don't fancy her as more than just a friend, and will try to win you back. Either way, it's better to keep her as a friend than to continue to persue her when she's talking about other men she's met.