met this girl at a concert a week ago. talked for an hour and got her number. she was well oiled at the time. a drunken prick kept hassling her by tapping her arm as i was talking to her so i would just turn myback and not react. i deliberatley kept my composure even though i felt like twatting the wanker.we parted and i told her i would phone.

phoned her two days later and left a voicemail. she rang back 3 hours later and we had a good, humorous convo. arranged a day 2 for the end of the week.

Day two went ok. Met her at a bar. Sat opposite her. Pretty early on I said 'this is too formal, a bit like a job interview'. So she said ‘why don’t you sit this side? ‘ don’t worry I did.

After a while she was telling me how hard done by she was over something or another so I said 'come here' and let her put her head on my shoulders. As we parted she kissed my cheek so I didnt need asking twice, I kiss closed her there and then. As we left she started giving me feedback on my initial contact she said what swung it was the voice mail I left. thanks to advice from MING on here i left a really upbeat message with a laid back vibe. She kept going on about it and said she even played it to her mum & dad, which must have given me complete social proof?

For the rest of the night I repeated the old kino and k-closing her, she kept feeling out to hold my hand. Went to three bars, she got the drinks in when it was her turn. i dropped her off at her parents (waiting to move into her own place) not after i stopped the car to show her the promenade next to the river. more k closing there aswell.she’s on holiday this week. to summarise I didn’t have to work that hard, she was more laid back and revealing so there was no need to game her. She got out of the car saying she’ll ring me. So from now on I will not initiate the contact. (new ground for me having to stand back and not be an AFC)

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Modster,

What was the VM you left? I am intrigued.....

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i basically walked around the living room til i had built up some energy and then phoned (i felt really laid back and composed.no jitters etc) spoke confidently and clearly. " hi **** it peter here from sat night, just phoning to see how your weekend panned out, when you're free and you've got a minute give us a ring back or a text, tara !!

i cannot stress the importance of phoning the girl, once you have got her number. the number of times ive texted and have heard nothing and gave up. this time i phone and act like i'm in control. this seems to get conveyed to her in the short length of a message.

it may be FA to some but it seems like magic.

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i'm into what you can be, if you want to be.
it's a way of living !