Hello! I´m very new to this whole pick-up thing. I´ve been very fashinated ever since I heard about the game, and hope to be a regular here at PUA-forum.
Now to my problem, haha. I met this girl, last friday. We have distant mutual friends, so that´s how we met at the bar.
We hit it off really well, and we seemed to be connecting really well. We talked and had a good time through-out the evening. About half an hour before the bar closed,
I asked if she wanted to go outside to grab some air.
We talked a bit, and after a while, I asked "Can i kiss you?".
So, we kissed, and french kissed, and kissed some more.
(Since then, I´ve been reading Mystery´s The Mystery Method, and I believe this is my first rookie mistake)
I think I should´ve slowed things down, it was escalating too quickly.
But being the AFC I currently am, I didn´t. And after a while, she went back inside, and I left.
I didn´t get her number or anything. However, a few days later, one of our distant mutual friends gives me this girls msn. And I add her. (I´m guessing, this is rookie mistake number two)

We´ve talked a few times, about nothing special.
Now I regret adding her though. I don´t know how to proceed from here.
It would be much easier to randomly meet her at a club or something, and keep gaming from there.

So, my question is, am I screwed? Maybe I should apologize for the kissing and for being so forward, and say it´s very unlike me and whatever?
Should I try to ask her out for coffee or something? Is that too "needy"?
Maybe my only chance to fix this, is to meet her at a club/bar by accident again?

I really am serious about improving my game and so forth, so any advice and input would be greatly appreciated.
I guess I should forget about this one girl, and continue to play the game.
But I don´t want to give up on her until I know I´ve blown it completely.

Thanks in advance! I really hope someone want to help a rookie out!

Never apologize (unless you like... did something bad like kill her family)!!!

You're still in the AFC wussy mode.. I'm just being honest. You're thinking about it too much. You already care so much about someone you don't even know.

My advice, because this is what works for me:
Next time you catch her on msn, have something cocky/funny to say, maybe about something that happened that night. Keep the convo super short, 2 mins max, and simply grab her number at the end while you are "leaving". An OH BTW give me your number so I can call you 100 times a day.

Molson! Thank you so much, man. Worked out perfect. I got her number. She even hinted at meeting up tonight. "We might see each other, if you´re going out tonight!" she said. Should I call tonight? Or should I still play it cool? I think it might be needy to call tonight even though she hinted at wanting to meet?

Could a moderator perhaps move this thread to the newbie section? I guess I missplaced it a bit.

Things have been working out pretty nicely.

We´ve been texting some, and talked a few times on MSN.
I met her outside a bar this weekend, just as she was leaving.
She had a guy with her. We talked, some light kino, and she left.
Me still being in AFC mode, calls her a bit later.
Apparently she´s on the bus, on the way home. I ask her to get off the bus and meet up. I´m so ashamed of this. Hahah, I should know better. But I was too drunk.

Anyway, she tells me I´m putting her in an awkward spot, and we say goodnight.
A few minutes later she texts me, saying "Coffee next week".

I responded the day after, asking "was that a question, an order or just a statement"?
It ends with me not continuing on the coffee trail, and switching subjects.

So, long story short, should I ask if she wants to have coffee with me this week?


And, another quick question. Today on MSN she asked me "hey, what´s my phone number?"
She recently lost her phone and has a new number. And she needed me to tell her.
I responded "yeah, like i know it by heart?"
I think she was compliance testing me, but I dunno.
I told her, if she asked nicely I might go and check my phone for her number.
She said that she´s bad at asking nicely.


After that, she said something like "hmm, things is getting boring here, I´m gonna go have coffee with my friend *girls name*.

Then we said good bye.



Should i have agreed to her "compliance test"? I´m thinking not. But by the way she reacted after, I´m not sure.



Also, if she is DHV´ing, what does that mean? Should I reward her DHV´s with IOI´s and followed by DHV´s myself?




Please, help a newbie out. MUCH appreciated.