After taking too long to get a day 2. (about 2 weeks) I decided something needed to be done. Last night, before getting off the phone, I told her that I get off work at 5 on Monday, and that we should get some coffee. She told me she doesn't like coffee. I came back with "Then you can get something chocolaty then" She said "Oh yeah" (like she didn't think about that option) She then told me that she works Monday, and asked about Friday. I told her I'm off Friday.

Anyways, now my questions.

Up until Friday, do I call her or text her at all?

And since she wasn't too exited about coffee, should I suggest something else? (like bowling for example) Or should I be a man, and stick to my guns?

I figure we can meet at Starbucks, at this outside shopping center (I met her in the boarders there) And make our way to boarders and laugh at the funny books in the humor section. Then chill out by the spraying fountain. What do you guys think?

Cool dude. Just as a preamble, here's the mentality you have to have, or at least perceive to the outsider:

You are an important individual with many options in life. You have other things going on in your life, people to see, endeavors to accomplish, and dreams that you want to see come to life. You don't think twice about taking a woman out - you do this all the time. If this girl doesn't like you for one reason or another, someone else will!

BTW, a coffee date is sooooo boring, dude. It puts pressure on both of you to keep talking and entertain each other. I don't know how long you've been playing the game, but I've found that new members just can't keep a woman occupied for the entire length of the date and end up blowing it. They just don't have the conversational versatility that seasoned PUAs do.

You want a date that you can mutually enjoy together - window shopping, apple picking, ice skating, hiking, swimming, etc.

Now, that being said, I would text her on Wednesday at around 7:00PM.

Here's what you say: "Hey, it's my niece/sister/cousin's B-Day next week and I need to pick up a present. Let's go shopping instead! "

Take her to an outlet, or a mall and buy a present (make sure it's returnable, discretely of course), then mention that you're starving and say "I know this great italian/sushi/french place over on [address], let's grab a bite."

When the bill comes, if she makes a fuss about paying say "How bout I pay for dinner, and I'll let you buy dessert." If she says it's getting late or something, just say calmly "No problem, another time then." Don't say it as if it's a question - say it as an afterthought.

That that, bud. If you feel I babied you a bit, sorry. I don't know your level of game competance.

In any case, Good Luck!

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You're right to assume my game level. As I said in my other post, I'm not expecting anything with this girl. she is practice.

I chose coffee, because I read a lot about those kinds of dates, and it sounded like a good idea. I hate shopping, and it would surely show. Besides this Starbucks is in an outside shopping center. With a spray fountain to boot! (kids are always playing around getting wet.) Then of course there's the real mall about a block or 2 away. but when I think of a mall, I think of being in middle school. I can just taste the unnecessary drama and awkwardness of 8th grade (I don't know if that made any sense.

I LOVE hiking! But taking a girl to the mountains to be alone with some guy on the first date in my eyes would be a little scary to her.

Different strokes for different folks, i suppose, but i find that coffee-shop day 2's work well as a follow up for a girl you meet in daygame. if you can find a "cool" place that is *not* starbucks even better! but yeah, when i do coffee i always bounce within 30 minutes to keep it interesting.

dont make something like that a big deal in your head. she'll get your vibes on that and think its scary just because YOU think that... if you built enough comfort on day 1, she'll be fine. and its a GREAT option for you because its something you are apparently passionate about, and she gets to step into your world and you get to be the expert (point stuff out as you hike or watever it is you would do lol), which flips an attraction switch for her.

Thanks for the input nermob! I actually texted her today to confirm Friday, and set an exact time.

First we had a brief playful coupe of texts Then I said...

Me - "Are we still on for Friday?"

HB- "I don't think so, I'm sorry. We'll have to plan for another time."

Me - "that sucks. did something come up?

HB - "Yeah, actually a lot did. But we'll plan for another time for sure."

Me - "No worries. Is it just Friday, or all weekend? We can do something next week if you can't find any time"

she didn't text back.

I don't know if this was an excuse or what (we didn't have definite plans anyways)
either way, I think I'll go out this weekend and try to meet more girls anyways.

You gotta play it off like it doesn't matter.

The minute you probe into what she's doing instead of dating you is the minute you give away your alpha status.

should have been more like this:

Me - "For Friday i'm thinking meet me at xx:xx pm at xxxxx place "

HB- "I don't think so, I'm sorry. We'll have to plan for another time."

Me - "ok. too bad. i'll let you know"

Thanks for the input guys! I actually don't feel bad about this at all. I'm exited if anything. Because by screwing up that just prepares me more for next time. I thought my little bit of texting might not have been that great. Next time I'll do better!