| I posted this in the newbie section too, as I'm not sure where to post it.
As no one aswered my other topic, I thought I'd start a new one.
I went out with this girl, all went well, had dinner, we connected a lot, she then canceled a movie with her ex-boyfriend and went back to my place with me instead and we watched a film. I did some kino escalation during the film and it worked. K-closed her when the film was over. We made out for like 3 hours. And she was talking about the possibility of starting a relationship with me, how she was so happy that she'd found me, how we were so alike, etc.
Got some LMR when her bra was off already, because she said she was affraid that I wouldn't give a shit about her the day after if f***ed her that night. I thought about doing Style's tactic of stop giving her attention, but figured I wasn't gonna act like an ass to this girl... Yeah, I know, she was there for the taking and I couldn't deliver the final stroke... very AFC moment of me but I just thought I'd just f*ck her some other day (plus my parents were sleeping upstairs and I didn't want them to wake up with the screaming)
She's a foreigner, she lost her job recently, and she says she's leaving the country next month. This girl is obviously GF material but I doubt I can get her in BF zone and get her to stick around in so little time. She sounded like she liked me that much, but obviously after a few hours of first having seen someone, that's not gonna happen.
So now some more shit at her work popped up, she left that "moment" mindset thing she had with me, and she's acting quite colder, like she's now affraid of what she said and felt on Saturday. We had arranged a meet up at her place, but she didn't mention it and I didn't want to invite myself either, so just messaged her I couldn't make it to stay in the upper hand instead of looking like an ass. She answered back saying no problem.
She was telling me her story and how everyone has treated her really badly throughout her life and how she was sick of it, tried to treat her nice a bit, and she seemed to enjoy it. But I think I may have treated her too nice and scared her off.
So I'm kind of in a difficult situation at the moment again, as I have little time to spend with her, so I can't play push-pull properly. She doesn't want me to treat her badly, and said she almost didn't answer my first message because I was bullyish to her. But I know I can't go on being too nice or that will be too AFC on my part and she will just lose interest.
So I'm taking suggestions on what to do, we haven't really been chatting this week, I'm thinking maybe call her on Thursday and ask for a meetup Friday night. I know that if I can get her somewhere private I'll end up F-closing her. But how can I suggest her place without forcing me into her and making her feel unconfortable.
(She's smoking hot btw, to the point she was telling me how guys don't really approach her. And I was thinking, she's one of those girls who are so hot that they intimidate men. Men don't even feel good enough to try their luck with her, but she's weirdly a very insecure and shy girl)
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