| I have a somewhat weird one. Back in June, I met this girl and asked her out. I was going to the beach with my friends and invited her and her friend along. They came, it was fun, we played soccer, I isolated and we had a nice conversation, we held hands (she initiated), and we kissed a little bit (I initiated).
Then I had to go away for about a month. I came back and texted her a few times and she flaked a few times. She even straight up ignored a text or two. So I figured this one is over, but then on a random Sunday night she asks if I want to meet up in an hour. I run this by a female friend (actually my ex-) and she thinks this has to be a shit test, so I re-flake. But we end up texting again the next day and agree to meet.
It goes kind of well, kind of not well. We go to a comedy show, then I go to the park, we kiss a lot, we talk a lot. She is giving many conflicted signals though, saying various things like "I'm not sure what your motivations are", or "you do travel a lot", "I don't really do casual sex", and "I don't really know what I want either". She accuses me of being very closed and hidden even though I tend to think I'm an open book. So when I drive her home and kiss her goodnight I say, "listen, no more being closed and mysterious. I like you, and I'd like to see you again soon."
Her response: "I like you too, and I'd like to see you again" (dropping my "soon").
Since then I haven't seen her or talked to her much, trying to be a little scarce. I've sent a text or two that went without reply, so I've pretty much just resigned to giving up on this one. It seems like I got her into the "buyer's remorse" phase where I didn't do enough comfort, but I guess it's possible I was a wimp and did too much? I don't know how the dynamics of being away for so long might have changed things.
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