Messaged this classmate and group project mate for a few days. I get the feeling that i may have screwed it up in some ways in my messages.. Being too nice maybe?.. yeah.. anyways, i wanted to ask this person to follow me to get a present for my sister.. Any ideas on how i could do this without being needy and making it difficult to refuse.

Just met her in class first time and paired together for project. sent her back to her hostel in uni in my car... We are supposed to generate 10 questions over the weekend to interview people. 3 days later

Me: U didnt
her: Oh hi, i didnt what:)
Me: text me at least a hi
Her: You didnt leave me your number, just gave an email address. I have started working on those questions, want me to send them tonight? Have u come up with anything?
Me: Thats fierce. Well, i ll be doing it later. How was the weekend?
Her: Not done, only thought of a few. Ill email them later yea weekend was not bad
Me: The highlight of my weekend was watching my pet dog chase my neighbours cat. (something along those lines from what i remember)
Her: Sounds exciting lol. Did you have a look at some of the uni clubs
Me: Did you play some sport or instrument?.. I have kind of phobia for hockey after injuries and all.. Plus i wanna study hard and do well.. So really in a fix. Backyard action aint bad though.. Haha.. What do ya think
Her: Not sure ay.. I have a broken toe at the moment lol
Me: Yikes.. Cant recall anything on thurs?.. In a cast or something?.. Well better be gentle and take care during this stage mann.. I shall go hit the gym...

She emails me some of the work..

That night around 9pm

Me: Hey just saw the mail.. Fierce stuff there.. I shall be doing this tonight and will message you once im done tmr..
Her: Yep full day at uni
Me: All right.. Ill work on it later.. And take care of that toe.. Sweet dreams
Me again: Could you collect a set of notes for me at the lecture.. Just realised i have a tut clash.. sorry and thanks in advance..
(NO REPLY)

Next night
Me: Is tmr a busy day as well?.. Ur done by?..
Her: Not sure sorry got stuff for another tutorial all afternoon why is that
Me: Supposed to discuss about the questions.. Ill come down on wed then.. Just let me know the rough timing you end on wed so that i can schedule it in.. Did you get the notes?
Her: No sorry not yet my computer wont let me log on. Sure wednesday i finish at midday
Me: Logon?.. Alright wed it is.. Better go catch good sleep having had the full sch day and all.. Night

(NO REPLY)


I need to meet her tmr and need to send a message and then meet her. I dont wanna meet her in school. at least at a cafe after which i wanted to get her along with me to buy a present for my sis.
Help me guys.. i dont have much time.. And Really thanks in advance for ur message..

Why don't you post some excerpts of what you messaged?

HAVE JUST ADDED ALL THE DETAILS IN

You are sounding needy & clingy in those messages. In the future don't ask so many questions or give details that your weekend sucked. Be busy, in demand, interesting, etc. You have to be in control. Don't keep trying to flirt when she obv isnt flirtung back. Send one or 2 messages in a day tops. If she doesnt respond with enough info tell her ur busy and ull talk to her in a day or two. Saying ur going on a date.

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The conversation just seems liek a conversation between two friends because it doesn't seem like there's any attraction or seduction going on there.

You have to juice it up make the texts more spicy make your intentions known

i knew i was screwing up... im really hesitant to type stuff cos im scared that she would be put off by me trying something like that.. am i doomed guys.. i know i dont really have "game" and now i dont really have time.

Hey,

I reckon this will serve as a learning exercise for you. I agree with what was said before about you coming across as a little needy, with texts/emails don't overdo it - especially if you've only just met recently. Stay a bit of a mystery to her, make sure she knows you have plenty of other friends and activities in your life and that she is only a small piece of that puzzle. It's really handy that you've been paired together, but try and make the 'relationship' more than just about work.

Have you got mutual friends? Can you go out as part of a group of mates with her so it's more informal and try and game her from there? I find if there's someone from uni who've I met because of work, going for drinks and/or seeing them on a night out is far better for gettin to be cheeky and flirtatious.

Take it from there.

Don't get down on urself. Ur here trying to learn & admitting mistakes. Ur on the right path! There are too many hot women in the world to care. As soon as u bag another she'll be the furthest thing from ur mind. Don't hesitate to start up some light flirting. If she isnt into it....so what...the worst that has happened is that u flattered her & made her feel good. The best pua's dont get every girl, but they dont shy away! Id practice making eye contact and holding it w/ any girl you encounter. I do mean hold the eye contact, and give a big friendly smile. Say hi and compliment something about them or ask for advice about something on your mind. Keep it simple & casual. Ull be surprised @ how friendly & easy to talk to they are. You will build confidence & relax more. Do that a lot for a week or two. Then try and move to transitioning to flirting.

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I'm not a texting pro, but you seem kind of boring through your texts... your weekend high point was watching your dog chase a cat... you have a phobia of Hockey....

Maybe it's intended as C&F but if it is (and especialy through text were you have 0 non verbal tools to use) it need to be cristal clear. It didn't seem C&F to me, it probably didn't to her as well.

She's onto you - the simple points to learn from are; making your life sound boring, never do that. "Sweet dreams" seemed to come out of nowhere and was unwarrented, and that was her first "no reply" - I've been there before. Sounds counter intuitive but try to get over the feelings and just play it cool. And lastly, she kept very obviously bringing it back to the uni work, which means she knows what you're doing and she's trying to send you a message - let's stick to work.

Not sure if you can resurrect it, but ignoring that - I think in this situation you are much better being friendly but straight to the point when setting up your uni meet ups and talking about swapping notes or whatever, and then when you actually meet, have fun conversations and be entertaining, at the right times, but also show you can get down to work and do good uni work when you have to. Then you will create attraction that you can play off. Instead of directly hitting on her.

If you keep using every opportunity to hit on her she's gonna even be afraid to do uni work with you.