Day 2's are definitely my sticking point, I feel.

It started out because she was advertising it on her facebook (we have a mutual friend, and we have met once before), I volunteered to be a test subject, but only if I could get some tips, and I also said I could give some too, as I've been told I'm pretty good at it. She added me as a friend when she messaged (also good sign) and she's been giving me the details of what the massage is about, eg. she is doing it for practice and appreciates tips.

Can't tell if she's interested but she's very positive and jokey - that's a good start, even if that's not IOI and it's just her personality, at least she's comfortable enough to be like that with me. She tried to chat to me online a couple of times (I was busy) so that's a good sign too. (We added each other as Steam buddies ages ago, cause I play games on Steam with her friend)


It looks good but there is nothing really OBVIOUS that she's pretty keen on me yet. She could just be really friendly. That's the vibe I get.

So, any advice? A massage is a really good situation to be in, I know I could even switch it around and have a go on her, and learn from her.

Should I do some things where you drop words into conversation to put "her and me together" in her mind? Or should I play it super cool, and be all business like but still be funny and friendly, but completely act like lust is the last thing on my mind, because of the obviousness of the situation? Would that be cooler?

Just looking for ideas and opinions.


To spice it up - she's bi and so's our mutual female friend, and they both want to do a threesome with a guy, but that friend just got a steady bf who doesn't want to do that...??? so she's out of the picture for that. But I was thinking that her relationship to that friend could be a conversation topic. As well as the party that I'm going to next weekend.

Though I haven't got any replies from anyone when I invite them to that party... which is weird - when I tell them it's a "hillbilly" themed party, maybe that part scares them off??? Definitely strange...

She was nosing around my profile and commented on a game I made (I'm a game developer) and said she loves that game... decent IOI I think, even just as a friend.

I told her (via facebook again, it's all we got besides chat) to give me her number and I'd let her know when I'm available for the massage, and I gave her my number. She never replied.

I was thinking of changing tact entirely and just sending "So how do you usually do this, do we meet at the uni or something?" to throw her off the idea that I'm just trying to get to her house. But right now I'm leaving it. Possibly we'll get to chatting online at some point and I can say "hey, you never got back to me about the massage appoinment, I'm available X if you can make it."

Honestly, I can't think of a more reasonable and innocent excuse to meet up with her in her own house, and it's just fallen into my lap, and yet I feel like I'm losing it...