Ok so this girl I'm slow burning is driving me nuts .. it's a big post I know but all help VERY GREATFULLY received as I'm losing my game brain here
so please help guys.
I work in same block as her and she's flirted for ages so I asked her out, she flaked first time but came over second, we just hung out and chilled at home as she said she didn't like "dates" so I built mucho comfort, lots of kino and just a kiss as she went (I have slept with her collegue last year and she knows, so I didn't want to hit her up on the first night as I figured she'd just think I was out to bang her and if I crashed and burned I have the fall out to deal with each day at work)
so anyway, she came over, had a good time, left, sent me an ;)x wink and kiss sms after and then a couple of days later I invited her out at the weekend, she said she was busy so I said ok cool (Not sounding needy or affected)
she then replied. I may be in the next town to you tomoro though. so I say ok, if you make it into my town then you can buy me drinks and be my taxi home, she says ok on the taxi.
next night she sms's to say she's not going to next town to me.. I say ok cool, have a good night, she immediately replies... but I may be in your town later.. but in jeans.. so I think forget this.. she's playing me about, wants me to ask to hook up yet again so I don't offer to hook up .. I just say ok, you 'll be fine in jeans you'll get into places etc.
she then texts random crap for like 6 texts like where she is now, what she's doing etc.. then finally says she's tired and going home, so I go ok cool, enjoy your chilled night
so we just keep in touch on SMS over the next few days her usually asking me how I am and how my night is going, so after a few days I invite her over, she says ok sounds good, if I get some errands done first. so I go ok cool, next day she says she hasn't got them done but can maybe take a couple of hours out to see me.. (I normally would be like nope but I just figured if I get her over I can move forward with her so say ok)
she of course doesn't turn up, doesn't text or anything.. so I (annoyed) text what time you thinking of hitting mine as I'm out till 7 (even though I was in) she replies with a huge text about how she's just got in and her day has been crap yada yada yada, says nothing bout coming over.
she's the says what are you doing tomorow, so i say I'm busy in day but free in the evening for a while, she's like ok I need an opinion on something, she texts random stuff, back and forth, eventually she say shes in a bad place at the moment, closed down and withdrawn etc.. (ex boyfriend is doing her head in still) but asks me if I'm out friday night, i say not sure yet maybe
she doesn't turn up after work, doesn't text or ring BUT is always posting stuff on my myspace page and saying hi at work and teasing (I do tease her harder though) but I'm still thinking that she's interested or she would just shut down and keep her distance but this vague crap is doing my head in. (I'm still gaming other girls but this one is hot and lots of years younger than me!
so whilst I don't have oneitis I do really want to get hooked up with her)
I haven't sms'd since wednesday night, (neither has she) but she hit me up on facebook chat on friday night as I was going out and saturday day time, (whined about her ex boyfriend banging her mate, he's stalking her still though yet she still talks to him but says she doesn't want him back (he would jump at the chance so I believe her) I just said well that's closure on and she said .. "well yep when I'm over it"
anyway I'm planning on not getting in touch first at all (normally I'd have sent a I don't tolerate people in my life who can't keep their commitments etc. but I can't be TOO harsh on her if I burn her as I have to see her everday and I'll just look a dick and it'll be uncessary hassle) or at least being very concise, instead of big sms's replies I'm thinking short, "cool, sounds good, nice," or vague crap like she's pulling such as "maybe, possibly, perhaps" etc..
or do you guys think she's testing my interest and I should get in touch .. and should I just be a little more direct and go down the "if we don't hook up again soon I'm gonna start cheating on you with the maid" etc.. or even more direct with something else !??!?
I'm thinking she's trying to play me (I am a catch lol after all.. but seriously I've got an amazing job, wicked car, house, quality of life and she knows I date plenty of girls ) but she's quite a bit younger than me and not that experienced with guys so isn't quite sure what the hell she's doing as the mixed signals are big.. she doesn't seem too up for coming over yet keeps chatting to me first all the time.
so guys you thinks she's playing hard to get by not being available, looking too interested, even though she's contacting me still, OR is she confused about ex and trying to use me as a distraction or not sure what to do.. OR is she just enjoying the thrill of a guy chasing her (not that I am now) and depeding what she's doing.. WHAT do I do to move forward with her?
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