We metup for a 20min chat over a cup of coffee which turned out into a 2hr conversation and lunch. She had a good time, she was laughing to my stories and we also did a little kino (wasn't too hard since she's a massage therapist so I asked to show me some cool massage tricks, etc..)

I said I had to get going and we got the bill. She offered to pay but I said "I got this one...but I appreciate your offer" - too wussy..lol??

Before we parted we came close to one another to say goodbye but we both had sunglasses on and I couldn't frigin tell is she's was looking at my eyes or not so I went for a kiss on the cheek. I screwed up because when I leaned toward her she didn't turn her cheek to me at all. She wanted a kiss on the lips and I fin screwed it all up.

Then I turned around and walked away...2 seconds later I turned around and said "hey!"...she turned and walked toward me and all I ended up saying was "I'm going dancing Thursday night, why don't you join me"...after a little pause she said it's hard over the week because she gets up early Fri morning..." (I mentioned to her earlier I might be going away for the weekend so I couldn't ask her about weekend plans). I left it at that and left.


She's a really good looking and a sweet girl, solid 8. I want to make sure I don't screw it up again. I plan on giving it a couple of days and call her toward the end of the week to try to make plans for the weekend. Maybe take her for a light dinner or dancing.

So how bad is it to fail kiss-close when you're 90% sure the girl was expecting one but you chickened out? I should have taken her sunglasses off. damn it.
Any suggestions? Thanks!

Maybe a little. I personally would not say that, and just pay the bill confidently as if it was not even a thought (at least pre-FB). Not sure what experts would say since I am novice.
We all learn eventually -- I've blown a couple of these in the past. For me at least, I always go for the kiss on the lips. If SHE turns to make me kiss her cheek instead, I will usually neg her on it.
I think at this point it still was not too late. Instead of inviting her, as she approached you, you could have either gone for another kiss (obviously first testing by doing something like arching aross her forhead/hair first). Or, if she had a sense of humor, you could have cracked a cocky joke about the kiss, gone in for a 2nd attempt, and then brushed it off with a follow up cocky joke.

You definitely should not have made yourself available to her immediately by offering another date instead of playing hard to get. Based on her reaction it sounds like you may have blown it. I have recovered from mistakes like this, but it all depends on the girl.
I know it's hard, but try not to psych yourself out. For me this only came with experience. Hopefully she will be cool and overlook the fact that your are nervous about it, but just go for it and don't think.

It's not necessarily over with this girl, it all depends on her. If you did a good job up till you the end, she may give you a break and a second chance. If she is hot stuff though, you may have blown it. There is no way to know before you get back at it, so keep pushing forward with your game as usual. The only tip would be to make sure you do not try to overcompensate next time by getting antsy and trying to start where you left off rather than where you started. Pretend like the failed kiss never happened.

Thanks jmm,

I sent her a funny email yesterday with a picture of me taken on the beach last year. I'm wearing a t-shirt and there's a cow, a chicken and a pig on it. Below the pictures it says "animals*taste*good"

In the email I wrote....lol....I couldn't resist....hahahah

She replied with:

What?!?!?! You better watch it now- next time you wear that shirt you'll probably be jumped by a gang of ravenous, scrawny, vengeful, anemic vegans! Karma-ha!!
(it does look like an amazing place, though- aside from the zoological homicide)


She kept the joke going so I think that's a good sign.

hint: she's a vegan