okay so i am sorta new at this stuff but i've been reading up on this for awhile so its been an interesting experience. However, ive been struggling to figure out the best way to approach this:

i met this girl last friday at a friends party so it was a warm opener, we talked for awhile and turns out that she is a waitress at one of the clubs i goto often so she gave me her number and all but how do i move forward from here? should i call her? txt her? or just text her randomly and be like "hey are you working tonight becuase im gonna be there?" help!

Few options.


1)Text her asking 'Why would I want to come to your club?' / 'Whats so special about your club?'

This could go anywhere, if shes fires back with 'because I'm here'. Could say, all the clubs have cute barmaids, what makes you more fun?' etc

2)Go to the club with friends + pivots have a good time infront of her. Have a chat with her, run some game

3)Tell her about something fun you're going to be doing and she should come along. (Day 2).

Don't just turn up at the club looking for her, displays needyness. Don't tell her your coming to the club just to see her either. You have your own agenda and if it involves bumping into her thats just coincidence. She should have to give reasons for you to come out of your way to see her.

It sounds like you haven't contacted her already. It's been a week and she gave you her number. Good thing is you've shown restraint, but you've also missed out on time to build comfort /rapport over calling/texting.