Here's the phone and text game I went through recently after number closing after using the guy w/handbag opener:

Fikshen: *missed call - no VM.*
Fikshen txt: Hey its fikshen. Here's my no. Was gunna ask u what u were wearing. just kidding
HB Shorty: *Ignore*
Fikshen: Hey little shrimp, this is your shrimp daddy.
HBShorty: hey who's this?
Fikshen: lol nice. U remind me of this fortune teller I know, especially the hair. So u can hazard a guess.
HBShorty: lol ummm ok.. this isn't andrew is it?
Fikshen: lol thats cute i got a little brother called andrew its a cool name na this is fikshen the dancer from argentina. who r u anyway missy?
HBShorty: Ah ok kewl.. lol well if u have my no. u should know who i am!
Fikshen: *falls as asleep and doesnt reply*
HBShorty: Ah I remember u now.. met u at the x-bar sat night?
Fikshen: *doesnt read goes to work and leaves phone at home*
HBShorty: *Missed call*
Fikshen: lol not bad not bad - I should no who u r but i guess I'll hav to call to find out. whenever i feel like of course!
HB Shorty: haha ok fair enough.
Fikshen: *Missed call with VM* - Hey HBShorty this is fikshen, Ill call back later. cool.
HB Shorty: *ignores*
Fikshen: Stop it! stop thinking about me and smiling.
HB Shorty: *ignores*
Fikshen: we cant be together, but my weekend totally beats up your weekend
HB Shorty: lol wat the hell u on bout?
Fikshen: Ill just have to explain another time. God its early (at 5:30am)
Fikshen: I guess what Im trying to communicate is that I hate the feeling Im chasing a woman especially post sex. Just wanna feel like I can talk to u about these things b4 I call. Babe, is that cool? *damn that was genius*
HB Shorty: yea but im at work so u cant call yet
Fikshen: I understand
HB Shorty: *5mins later* ive finnished work now.. but i think u got me confused wif someone else.. cos i didnt sleep wif u
Fikshen: *totally should have called but was too tired* wait is this liliana? ah poor baby
HB Shorty: Narr this is HB Shorty
Fikshen: *missed call with VM* hey HB Shorty was gunna tell u a story that'd u'd be interested in hearing, but u can call me back.
HB Shorty txt: Sorry was at the hospital so couldnt take your call.

At this point I decided to switch up and try for the text close.

Fikshen: *at 2am* Hope its not serious. Been at this spanish learning thing just finished. Anyway, will b honest feel diff. to talk on the phone, but i reckon it will be easy in person. Im free on sat from 7:30-9:30. I gotta meet friends after. we'll do sushi liked we talked about deal?
HB Shorty: narr im goin back to hospital again this morning - na not serious just visitin my sis.
Fikshen: So wat u wearing?
HB Shorty: lol random - im in jeans black top n jumper.

*fucks up next text which leads me to deleting the no.*

Any feedback on anything? I'm not personally happy with a couple of things in there. My main question is how to respond well to the wat u wearing question? A main SP of mine if closing for day 2s - how can I improve this?

peace

I don't really know where to start....
Why oh why, would you ask her what she is wearing, ESPECIALLY in the first text, even as a joke???
And when you say *ignores* does that mean you have sent a msg to her and she hasn't written back? It seems like you did a lot of double msging without getting replies. That makes you seem sooo needy and clingy. I'm not trying to be harsh, just realistic, but this is probably the worst thing I have seen done. I'm actually surprised that she kept writing back to be honest. Take this as constructive crit, don't do the same/similar again.

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Have to agree with differnce.
Heres something u could do different.
I think you are trying a bit to hard with the C&F attitude since almost everything you wrote was a punchline. If you gonna go on that strong, U should open with something innocent at first. "Hey sweetie, thinking about me much? - Xen ( always send with name first text)

Avoid using lol "lol" say haha if u have to .. try to spell words out instead of Leet speak.. (R U 2) and so on. And if u do a call and get to VM first time u call .. its important to talk in a message, since this is concidered a shittest. show that u got the balls to talk in a VM and u do a DHV.

If u call and she doesnt pick up. use a line when you text her like. "So when I call later, are you gonna answer? I can't believe I even have to ask... " try do this after shortly answering a question she asked or something simmilar that requires a short answer.

And one of the most important things. keep it short. everything can be said in 12- 20 words, u need to peel of the things that aint needed.

Hope that was of some help

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Thanks for reading - really appreciated.

I'm good in the field, but right now poor on the phone and in texts. So I'm trying to improve my game here. I'm having trouble texting normal things cause I always revert to C&F. I no. closed a new chick on sat. made out set up sushi timebridge for the next day at 12:30pm and meeting place. So I said I would meet her there. learned from my mistake from above (made sure she typed my name and no. into her phone so she would know it was me). Here's what happened:

Fikshen: Hey babe really sorry i was late. will totally have to make it up to u
Fikshen: Left VM - Call me back when your bratty little cousin (obstacle) isnt around.
HB7: Thats ok i was just really hung over
Fikshen: ah thats cool then there i was feeling totally guilty about being late. your guna have to make it up to me now
HB7: well ill have to then so wat ya been up to today
Fikshen: stayed at home locked in my room playing nintendo. square dancing later. wat about u?
HB7: working working working im the manager at xyz fashion shop in xyz place. it was pretty hectic today
Fikshen: wow thats cool. sounds really kind of fast paced. i wonder if u ever get a quiet moment in the day

thats what I said - I had a great start but the last text....... no reply - i fucked up! I'm trying to learn what to have said here?! I should have called after her 'working working' text i think. now what - delete the no and find someone new?

That second one was significantly better man! But still has room for improvement. Why do you delete the number if you don't get a reply? Leave it there so you could try and rekindle something later. Cos you never know, maybe he phone died, maybe she ran out of phone credit, anything could have happened.

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I didnt like this part - "i wonder if u ever get a quiet moment in the day"

What would u have said to this:

HB7: working working working im the manager at xyz fashion shop in xyz place. it was pretty hectic today

wat should I do now? Wait a day and Call and prob leave a VM or text an 'add on' saying:

"..so u can think about me and smile. Stop that! how u going to make it up to me?"

Yah that was much smoother then the first conversation u had.

I encounterd that sort of line just yesterday, first she complained a bit that she was tired, then she complained about her hectic job.

One pattern that Ive discovered while texting, or talking in general on phone and so on, is that if they feel pitty for themself, u either smoothly switch the subject, or u neg her for best results.

I think I would have made fun of her a bit for feeling sorry for herself. Aw poor thingy, Its a harsh world out there and then switch the subject. (she should always be happy after having a conversation with you, thus u can never agree that its ok for her to feel sad over little things.)

Second time they whine I usually call them, since then they often loose track of that negative thought.

Btw dont delete nr just like that, this girl i texted and talked to yesterday, was prolly 2 weeks since I spoke to her. If you just text correctly then u can repair almost any dmg u've done. (Got a date with her on thursday now )

Edit: dont think u should mention the "u o me" in a text. take her on a date somewhere and then smoothly point it out. that way u can have her cook for you or something similar on the next date. (U start the date at the finish line )

Thoughts ?

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