I've been chatting to HB8. This is a text game we had. Can anyone offer me any advice - I don't feel like the conversation has any direction or escalation. And any thoughts on the ending of it would also be good.

Her (initiating): Hey, you around uni? It's full of strange people.

Me: Aw! Do you not have any friends?

Her: No, now I know what it feels like to be you...

Me: Yeah, the difference is I have no friends because people are intimidated by my awesomeness. You have no friends because nobody likes you...

Her: That's not your role, I'm supposed to be the abusive one. I don't have time for your feeble attempts.

Me: Oh you're one them? If you can't take it...

Her: I can take it. You just need to learn to give it properly

Me: No, I give it well, you just don't understand. If you need me to simplify it...

(Takes her three or four times as long to reply)

Her: (Inside joke). Since you're not here (in uni - I was, I just hadn't told her) you don't serve any purpose

Me: Cat got your fingers? At least I serve a purpose some of the time. Do you ever?

Her: No one knows you exist. My purpose is being wonderful and charming at all times.

Me: Oh? You should work harder on that. Don't worry, bookshops have self-help sections

(I haven't yet had a reply, later I see her leave uni)

Me: I can't believe you left without saying hello!

So, can anyone give me any insight, particularly into gaining some direction towards k-closing etc. And should I have sent the last message about not saying hello?

I wudda been at uni and "served my purpose"....

dude u went into some nice heavy neggin in ur message lol, I like ur style my man, but it did get aggy as u continued so she prob cut u short.

Ur insulting and gettin her attention doing it, ur just not showing any sexual intent and ur deffinatly not putting her in ur sexual frame.

She sounded like she was sex texting, so wudnt b suprised if she found sum1 up to the job lol.

I wudda been cautious when she more or less called u out on neggin her, but least u got the respect for throwing some role reversal at her.


"Her: I can take it. You just need to learn to give it properly "

How did u not turn this into sum heavy sexual framing??

Me: "I heard u like to take it, alot, I just not at the front of the cue to be giving it, yet, wanna bump me up to first place where I belong?"

that one statement regardless of her context, left a gaping massive hole u cudda filled with intent and maybe even closed from.

But like too many "The Game Trained PUA's" u negged and negged and negged. I just swear u better look like an alpha male to even get away with the level of abuse u dished out.

She sounds fiesty tho mate, link her my digits if u like !!

Thanks dude

Yeah, I think the problem is that I have comfort, and perhaps attraction, but no arousal, and it's feeling a little weird. I ran into her yesterday and it was a little uncomfortable - there was a small bit of verbal jousting, but again no direction. So, I think, like you said, I need to introduce sexual framing. I'm going to try, but it doesn't come that naturally to me...I never know how far I can go.

And when you say she called me out for negging, what should I have done?

learnt a better sniper neg, or used some double neg technique, altho u need to be in full alpha frame to pull it off else u will look like a mug.

I have sum heavily laced negs that are so powerful they should be worth money lol.

I like to verbally stack my negs and c'n'f's so that I dont look like average chump