So on Sunday I took down this girl at this party my friends had... I ran into her at the party and we talked for a long time... was able to get her feelings about things out in the open and make her laugh on and off... she was liking it I could tell... the puppy face was coming out... so I left her... went off the the bathroom and really didn't pay attention to her for a couple hours...

Throughout the night people were getting pretty drunk and a couple of my buddies were trying to take her down... and she was pretty drunk so I laid off... finally later we all order chinese and I asked her if she wanted to go up to the rough to eat...

so we sat for awhile and eat and I kissed closed the girl pretty smoothly... we put down our food and she started to be all over me... people were coming up to the roof so we left and went back to her place...

I gave her multiples for awhile and she came back and reciprocated but I could get off... so then she wanted to have sex and I actually avoided it and kept driving her crazy...

I told her that it would be cool to maybe meet up again sometime and grad some dinner... she just kinda smiled.... so I kept getting her going and then said peace... kissed and took off... got her number and everything...

so after I left I recognized that I left my sunglasses at her place... I texted her that they were a momento from our time together.... she got back to me later and said she was wearing them and thank you... I texted her what she was up to this week... and she said she was traveling to boston and then to maine for work... might be home saturday on sunday night... and is traveling next week as well....

I texted her back... nagging saying that she stole my sunglasses and I feell naked without them espeically during the hottest weeke of the summer... she texted me back saying that she could send them to me in the mail... I thought, fuck... she doesn't like me and I should have banged her... so I texted back and said that she could keep them for her trip... but I need them back sometime... she texted back cool and then I texted back saying have a fun trip...

So I think I was a little to forward with the dinner thing and that freaked her out...

how should I handle this... feel like I shouldn't contact her for awhile... see if she texts me and go from there...

shes prob a HB8 pretty hot... would like to see if I could get something going with her?

Any suggestions?

Well sounds like u had quite a solid game. Dont think you should have asked her out for dinner though. Start of with something smaller and if it feels allright then u ask her for dinner (make it spontaneous). Dinner gets u locked up and it can easily create awkward moments if u don't play ur game really tight. A first dinnerdate is also giving her the idea of that ur this boring dude which has lack of fantasy and orginality.
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Link to some ideas of what to do instead of that boring typical dinner.

U started the texting ok, but shes testing u with the mailing thingy. Instead of becoming all dull and let her decide "I need them back sometime" I think u should have said something like ,I don't dare, what if the mailman gets chased by a dog, drops the package and they break?. Remember to keep the fun u started going.

Follow up with something so that she has to make it up for you next time she is in town, cause u have to go around naked for a whole week.

For now i think that U should use texting. On ur other post u got that link to seans post on texting. just follow those rules and shes urs. also posted some small theory there on how to text to easy get her out on a date.

I know its not the perfect lines, but tell me what you think of my theory here.

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Hey man... thanks very much for the line... question... so she sent me a message on Facebook and goes... I know you...

But she didn't friend me yet on there...

Should I respond tomorrow or is later today ok?

what about when she returns from her trips... should I wait for her to get ahold of me... should I call or text...

What's my next real move here?

Thanks

Well, the way I se it is that right now , u haven't build enough comfort, but she looked you up, which means she's interested. I personally dont like to use facebook or any other non direct mail thingy, cause u dont know when she will look there.

How about texting her with something like
Hey sweetie, saw u looked me up on Facebook, thinking of me much? - Sawyer (sign ur name first mess)

Chances are shes gonna say something like:
how are u, or what are you doing SPAM, in her responce.
If she asks somethink completly dull, then dont even bother to answer that question. come up with something better.

Answer with something unusual:
Just saw the sunset over the bay, the sky's glowing orange - looks incredible
or
Watching two birds soar around eachother in the sunset, really sweet =)
etc.

the idea is to make her get that beutiful or funny pic in her head(she gets a good feeling thinking about it), and then she wanna know more. Make 1-2 more messages about what u see. Or a question that arose while u saw this beutiful thing. But make it more of a thought to urself that u accidently wrote down rather then a direct question to her.

Then u move on with trying to place u and her in that pic aswell, so that she associates this good feeling with u and her being together.

a really good end that Sean in PU1o1 talked about is to mess"Good night, sweet dreams, beautiful" but in another language. Like french or spanish.

Just make sure to use smilys(dont overuse them), keep it short, and stay flirty. Also a good reminder is to never use to many questions, atleast if they arent playful. (avoid logical questions) for example - How are you -triggers the dull responce - Im fine thanks, how are you? u can get the information playfully if u have to ask it.
Thoughts?

Edit: mess(text) her at like 10. Then shes usually home from work. If shes out with her friends, she hasn't gone to a big and noisy club yet but she's probably at some calm bar just having a drink. If she is just home, all the better. Either way u should get a responce fairly quick.

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Just sent it out to a couple of Hb 7 - 10

Blonde10 - "I cant forward texts, but consider it returned "
brunette8 - "haha "
asian8- "haha, i guess your FUCKed now too "

how should i respond to those?