Basically, the headline says it.

Here's the scenario, I was with my buddies at the bar on Sat night and some of their female friends stopped in. All of them are hot. Anyways, I start talking to the one and since she's an insurance agent, I asked about life insurance. She asked me if I'm healthy and I told her I play and coach soccer. Turns out, she played D-1, so we had an even stronger connection.
She then said, "we should knock a ball around sometime."
I said, "Here, put your number in my phone."
I also told her that she should come by our practice (the high school girls team I coach). From what I remember, she was into it.

Now my question is how should I pose this to her now? Should I call her or text her about it? I'm always worried that texting makes you look cowardly. What do you guys think my best route is here?

I don't call girls I dont know. It's one of my rules. I've set up most D2's just through texting. The only exception was when she had to drive an hour to see me. Girls are more comfortable with texting, and you'll always get a response if she's interested.

YMMV

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"A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks, he becomes." - Mohandas Gandhi

Do what you want to do. It doesn't make you look like a bitch as long as you don't act like a bitch.


Remember, you're the man and if you want her, then you get her. You don't wait around for her to call/text.

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"...so it goes"

just curious how is calling not good? wouldnt that show like comfort? or am i wrong? just curious why texting would be better

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-moony

I feel like calling is better. I always think that texting is for girls as you always see girls texting more than guys.

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"...so it goes"

ya like dont get me wrong i text to fucking no end... i agree with the statement, girls do text more often. give the girl the call (imo of course, im still not a pua just learning still so of course dont take what i say as guru speak) and get a day two and let HER text you, say something that makes her wanna text you but also makes her wannaprove herself, have her pull a qualifier. if your hangin wit her and she starts texting on your day two giver her a hard time (a small neg) along the lines of "ya i think textings a waste of time unless its someone important, and im glad you havent texted me" it challenges her and makes her wanna qualify herself to prove shes worth ur time.. ya know? again just my opinion dont take wat i say as the only way, just my opinion on wat to do

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-moony

I initially thought the same thing but ive found after a lil trialk and error that im ten times more likely to get a response from a text rather than an answer from a phone call.

I look at it like this. It comes down to odds for me. I sometimes still call first but if i dont get an answer then i just hang up and text her later that day or the next. Cuz even if you leave a message it still doesnt mean she'll call back. She might be a lil too nervous and waiting for your next call. Or you call too many times and you look like a bitch when maybe in reality she just couldnt get to the phone in time.

With a text, she can reply anytime she has a moment. Its less awkward and less risk on her part. Ive even had a time or 2 where i gave a girl my number, she texted me, to be bold i called back that very second and she didnt answer. But when i texted she responded.

U still call sometimes but you really cant go wrong w/ a text.

Ya I still am old-fashioned so I just feel a call is more polite... But after 1 no answer just forget bout it and drop a text

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-moony

I always think it depends on what happened. If she was really into you then a text can be better cos it'll probs get her more excited (just think what you feel like when someone you really like pops up on your phone!)
Plus i think a text is a bit more casual, there's nothing wrong with it, its the 21st Century man!

If she had good time with you man , she'll be waiting for your text next day! That's for sure!

One of my classes in school taught us that 80% of people under 30 consider themselves texters and not callers. Texting is just the new phone call.

B-Man

no as long as ur being in control and if ur showing value towards yourself why does it matter if u text her first?

a text is always safer, it means they will always see it and its not as confrontational as a call.

just text her something innocent like "hey x, i thought you said you'd drop by and see me coach? -5 brownie points for you x"

plus, if your on the phone, its not rehearsed, you can muck up, with texts you have as long as you want to think of a decent response

-teen

If you text first it doesn't make you look like a bitch. Unless u left an awesome first impression, then your going to have shoot the text.

As far as txting and calling goes i think sticking with txting is key untill you have Sufficient comfort built. You'll read stuf all over the place saying you should call a girl because its more personal and you can convey your jokes better with tone of voice. The simple fact is that we are in a transition stage here. The pro's who have been at for awhile tell you to call because texting wasn't as a big deal. Trust me I used to be totally against texting and just talking on the phone. Slowly however txting has become a necessity and a girl might even think its wierd if you call. If your in the age range of 18-25 you should def be txting first. Thats just my opinion though