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ok so im goin shopping with an hb 9 this week. and afterward i really want to bounce her to my house and get a k-close. whats the best way i go about convincing her to come and also how to get that k-close. a little background: shes probably the one whos gunna be driving. there is a good amount of confort, im just worried there might be too much hopefully im not in the LJBF zone but i dont think i am. i need this guys thanks!
To get her into your house all that you have to say is, "Hey, I have something
I want to show you. Come in for a few minutes."
IS SHE READY TO BE KISSED?
by, Neil Strauss (Style)
When sitting arm in arm with your target, lean in and smell her hair and
say “you smell so fucking good, I’m trying so hard not to kiss you right
now….”
Then, push her off you and say “now get off me”. At this point do a slight
freeze out/IOD and wait for her to give you an IOI. If you did everything
correctly up to this point, she will give you an IOI by re-initiating kino
with you. After she does, lean in and kiss her.
You’ll know that she is ready to be kissed after she IOI’s you, because
you verbalized that you wanted to kiss her, and her IOI’ing you is a way
of accepting that verbalization.
by, David DeAngelo
I used to have no idea if a woman was ready to be kissed.
I could be sitting there talking to her, thinking to myself “Wow, her lips
really look nice...” but I didn't know what to do next. This would often
leave me kissless, and many times kissless for good, as I didn't get
another chance.
Here's what I do now:
If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to be
kissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make a
comment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips
of it.
If she smiles and likes this, I'll reach back over and start stroking it
again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her
eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that
she's ready to be kissed.
By using “The Kiss Test” I've been kind and complimentary, but by being
very SUBTLE about it, I haven't given her anything she can object to. I
now have a way of knowing if she's ready to be kissed that NEVER gets
me rejected—and I know within 5 minutes what it used to take me hours
or days to figure out...
Testing her readiness for the first kiss
by, FORGOT WHO
Touching Test
You can test her readiness by gauging her responses to casual and
romantic touching. Casual touching is simple and fast. It's when your
fingers touch her when you give her a cup of coffee, or when you touch
her arm or back to guide her to the table you've selected. Casual
touching is ambiguous; you might be touching her as a friend, or you
might be touching her as a potential lover.
Romantic touching is more intrusive. If you are touching and holding her
hand, or rubbing her arm, or keeping your hand on any part of her body
for more than a few seconds, you are touching her romantically. You
want her to welcome longer and longer periods of touch from you. First,
touch her casually, and see how she responds. More than likely, she will
have no visible response at all. If she pulls away at all, keep your
touching extremely brief, and keep up your romantic conversations. If
she continuously shrugs away from your touch, consider getting rid of her
and moving on. There's no reason to stay with a woman who is cold,
unresponsive, and doesn't want to be romantic with you.
If she does respond positively, touch her for longer periods of time. If
she gets more relaxed and animated, if her skin flushes, or her eyes get
shiny and reflective, these are all signs of positive response. If she
responds positively, move to putting your hand on hers for longer
periods. Don't make a big deal of this, just let it seem to happen.
The Hug Test
One way to learn about how a woman feels about you is to see how she
responds to being hugged. Like casual touching, hugging is something
you can usually get a woman to accept just by doing it. When you hug a
woman and don't make a big deal out of it, much of the time she'll just
assume that you are a guy who hugs, and not make a big deal out of it
either.
We usually recommend avoiding hugging a woman much before you are
having sex with her. Hugging is a friendly thing to do, rather than a
lover-ly thing to do. If she gets use to being in your arms without kissing
you, it's easy for her to resolve the apparent incongruity by telling herself
that you are simply a friend.
Also, hugging is a time when men who are starved for touch accidentally
show some desperation. They grab a hold, get caught up in how good it
feels to them (rather than to her), squeeze too hard, and don't let go.
The first rule of hugging a woman that you are dating is that you keep it
short. Short, short, short. Use it as a test of her readiness, not as a
chance to get your sexual or touch needs met. You'll get enough of that
later on.
When saying hello or good-bye to her, you can often simply take her in
your arms and hug her. If you keep it short, it won't scare her, and you'll
be able to gauge her response. Does she press into you? Does she seem
to want to really hang on? That's a good sign, and you might want to
move to kissing her right then. If she seems to want to get away, then
you know you have more work to do in making her feel romantic feelings.
The Face Kiss Test
Along with hugging, you can try face-kissing. This is when you kiss her
cheek, to see how she responds. If she leans into the kiss, and smiles,
she's into it, and will be receptive to your lip-kiss later. If she pulls back,
or winces, then it's back to the drawing board. She most certainly won't
be receptive to a lip-kiss if she won't take one on the cheek willingly.
Enthusiasm Test
You can also gauge a woman's level of interest by her level of
enthusiasm. Her enthusiasm will be shown in her overall demeanor, but
it's best shown in the time between one activity and the next. It's
between the activities that you do together, rather than during them, that
she has the best opportunity to claim she is tired and needs to go home.
Between activities, watch her level of interest. After the movie, is she
eager to go out for coffee or a drink, or does she seem reluctant? Does
she seem to be looking for a juncture at which she can end the date, or is
she up for partying with you all night long? It's these between spaces that
will tell you her level of interest.
Pretend Kiss Test
This test also primes the woman for your kiss. You begin by moving
towards her, as if to kiss her, at some point "change your mind," and
back off again. If, as you move toward her, she backs away, she
probably doesn't want to kiss you. If she stays still, or moves slightly
forward, she's probably interested. The pretend kiss can "seal the deal"
for the kiss later. If she hasn't moved away, then you both have
acknowledged that a kiss is inevitable, and it's only a matter of time.
CHAT