i met this HB9 in a club months ago and kept running into her there, turns out we are both go there regularly. anyway one time she started giving IOI's so i got her dancing and we kissed, the next week she asked to swap numbers (i didnt get her number the same night cos as i kissed her cos after we kissed she went off to her friend and i didnt see her anymore that night, strangly she did the exact same thing straight after swapping numbers), couple days later we went on a date. since then ive been quite ill so coudnt arrange another date, but i kept in touch with a few texts each week (its been about a month since the date)

i didnt tell her i had been ill until recently, saying im ill seemed like a DLV. but having asked a female friend she reckons i fucked up by not asking not giving a reason that i didnt ask her out again suggests i wasnt interested in taking it further

having only just recovered from being ill. and already made plans with my mates for the weekend i text her saying we would be out at the club this weekend and is she gonna be dropping in. 2 days later she texts back saying maybe but she might be going out elasewhere with her friends...well she didnt show up (so i ended up kiss closing another girl instead)...so she took 2 days to reply, saying maybe and then not coming suggests she has lost all interest

is this one now a lost cause? or do you think i can still turn it round? if so what tactics should i use? i dont know whether to just drop it altogether, ask her out or just wait until i run into her again in the club and try and reinitiate attraction

In general, its good to just assume the best in people. You'll drive yourself crazy otherwise.

I used to have this problem that I never really got anywhere, or more like I got nowhere slowly. The thing you have to do if you are still interested is to do the classical thing and just "sweep her off her feet" call or text one day and say "hey lets go on a date" don't ask if she wants to, be more direct and just be like "we're goin out, I'll pick you up in an hour" take her out, play your best game ever and before she even knows whats goin on you have already had sex with her. I did this on a girl I had sort of been seeing off and on but nothing really happened until now, it worked great so try it! be bold!

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Cool i like the idea of sweeping her off her feet in the spontaneous way, i'll have to give that a try

just gotta think of where to take her for a great date, any ideas?

I always try to be very original, making sure our date is like nothing they've done before, in other words, I try to not just go sit at a bar or cafe. Last date I went on I was in the girls town, a town I didn't really know, so I had her show me around town at like 12 at night, we took a walk under the stars in her old highschool, it was fun and very original, we ended the night buying hot chocolate at a 24/7 open gas station and drive up to the "make out point" outside town, where we made out in my car. It was good because it was an unusual date and very nostalgic for her, try to think of anything else but just sitting somewhere. Doing some activity like bowling or so might also work. You could also mix it around, you would really suprise her if you took her out just like that but you actually had a whole schedule planned, like first a walk in a park, then bowling or whatever and maybe end by eating at some restaurant you figure she has never been to before. Use your imagination and just play with it. If you're sitting in a park or whatever it's always fun to suprise her and pull out a bottle of wine and two glasses that you just happened to have.
Hope this helps!

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yeah, thats the problem making it original, i though it could be a good idea to inviting her over to my town but the only thing to do is take her round a few bars for drinks and pool, maybe a restaurant and then head into the city to the nightclub where i met her, seems too unoriginal

the only other idea i had was ice skating, plenty of kino opportunities then into town and bouce around a few locations. when we went on the first date i was gonna surprise her by meeting for drinks then 'spontaneously' suggesting ice skating...but she couldnt make it to town so we ended up at the cinema which is not a good location for a date

when asking for a date do you find its best to tell her the plans or try and keep her in suspense? im pretty new to Pick up, especially phone game, ive never been great on the phone

im guessing its also best to suggest that you are going to take her out rather than ask if she wants to go out?

Idk if you want my opininon but I suggest just letting her go. If she's really into you and you were meant to "be with her" she would have chased a little bit too and met you halfway instead of you doing all the work. She's a 9, She's meeting new guys all the time. Some lame dudes and some she really likes. I think you should woooh a girl who's willing to be chased.. I think if you have to put forth all the effort to wrestle their hand behind their back to see them... it's simply not worth it.

But hey, if you see her again go for it, but don't be try hard.. Really learn to not care if you see her again or not. And realize there's someone out there for everyone.. and tons of them.

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