Hello all,
I am pretty new to this game and quite naive..
I actually succeeded in getting the # of this pretty girl I met last night at a club. I believe the pick up was quite smooth, with timely kino and also kisses on the cheeks and a hug at the close.
Believe me guys but this is my first pick up ever, so want some expert advice on the follow up. I feel like texting her instead of calling.(i talked abt some numerology s***, and shes like text me my luck number according to numerology) Anyways my question is when should i sms her and exactly what or should i call her? Please advice...

Many thanks!!!

You know a lot of PUA argue on this but to me, this is like Physical Trainers arguing over the best exercise for your abs, because really, they're all the same.

There's no minimum time to wait, however i tend to text back around 2 AM at earliest. Latest to wait is two days, but this is my personal choice and it could really be anytime.

And with calling, i would shy away from calling until you have texted first, so you can get her in a comfortable position to actually talk on the phone. Its like i read somewhere, maybe on this forum where someone said text "oh something crazy happened tonight, im gonna call you in three minutes to tell you about it" and she'll reply of course, and you call her in five minutes and if she can't talk at that time she'll tell you.

This way you don't get that awkward "Oh i can't talk right now, call me later"

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Thanks for ur rply...

Well i did text her with the classic 'something just reminded me about u'
but still havent got any reply yet....

What next? Plzz advice guys...

I just completely ignore the texting part until I've called her and I'd probably use the golden rule of three days before I call.

The thing is that text is cute and everything but I believe they aren't as personal as phone calls. You should just call her on the third day and tell her that you'll be heading to the coffee shop (somewhere near where ever she lives/works) and that she should join you.

Some people even go as far as deleting the number off their phone if the girl doesn't pick up. Like you said, you are quite new to this game and there are plenty of women in clubs so you will have plenty of opportunities even if you fail on the first pick-up.

I just completely ignore the texting part until I've called her and I'd probably use the golden rule of three days before I call.

The thing is that text is cute and everything but I believe they aren't as personal as phone calls. You should just call her on the third day and tell her that you'll be heading to the coffee shop (somewhere near where ever she lives/works) and that she should join you.

Some people even go as far as deleting the number off their phone if the girl doesn't pick up. Like you said, you are quite new to this game and there are plenty of women in clubs so you will have plenty of opportunities even if you fail on the first pick-up.

I just completely ignore the texting part until I've called her and I'd probably use the golden rule of three days before I call.

The thing is that text is cute and everything but I believe they aren't as personal as phone calls. You should just call her on the third day and tell her that you'll be heading to the coffee shop (somewhere near where ever she lives/works) and that she should join you.

Some people even go as far as deleting the number off their phone if the girl doesn't pick up. Like you said, you are quite new to this game and there are plenty of women in clubs so you will have plenty of opportunities even if you fail on the first pick-up.

The problem with the something just reminded me of you text is that if she doesn't have your number too she won't know who sent her that. I always like to text the day at around 2 or 3 in the afternoon. If I had a kind of neg on her or something funny I'll include that. Like on Sunday I texted the girls I number closed this:

'Hey future wife. Did you get home ok?'

'Hey its Barney. How was the rest of your night?'

'Thanks for the drink. That was very forward of you. '

I've gotten pretty good at text game. If you can not say your name, but include something in your text that she will know who you are that is optimal.

Also, text the next day buddy. Hot girls can meet lots of guys in a week. Unless you really made a strong connection you could end up just being that guy from the bar on Saturday. By talking to her the next day, you show you are confident and used to talking to women. If you wait too long what you say could come off as scripted to her. Also, girls know about the three day rule. And if you wait three days, she'll know it was part of a plan.

My last little advice is for you to avoid getting oneitis on this girl. Trust me you gotta be willing to lose the girl to get the girl. Don't come off as desperate or needy. Also, go out and number close, k-close and even f-close some girls. The more you do this, the better you'll get. I think you'll be surprised how quickly your game can improve, I know I was.

Hope this helps,
B-Man

Ps, Oh and boys. Getting over a girl takes a series of steps. From her bed to the front door. Boo yah

Thanks guys for ur advice,
i guess i will try calling/texting her again in the evening, if doesnt work out will delete the number. after all its her loss not mine...