Ok, tomorrow I am meeting up with this girl I've had class with to study for our final. I met her about half way through the semester, and we've basically just flirted before and after classes. The last couple weeks she started to kino more as well. Then today, I called her to meet up, but she ended up having to work today and so we're getting together tomorrow. However, on the phone she told me about a dream she had last night ( ) in which I kissed her after lecture in some scary "ghetto" neighborhood.

So obviously I suppose this is a good sign: she's obviously thought about me kissing her and wasn't hesitant to let me know. But my question is this: is there anything I need to do differently in going for a k-close at a non-party/bar daytime venue? We'll be at a library or coffeshop or something. I know I'm going to have to kino escalate, but is there anything I should do differently than if I was out on a friday or saturday night? I was thinking of having her meet me at this nice little tea shop which is a comfortable place which provides a little more isolation than a library or something.

Thoughts?

So, I was supposed to study with this girl before the exam, but she fell asleep and so I didn't see her until the test. Afterwards we chatted as walking home, but it's fucking cold outside and snowing so there was only some minor kino (her kinoing me, like slapping my arm or pushing me). She had to study for another exam so we stopped where she had to turn. I told her we should hang out when she gets back from break, and so she said she'd call me.

Then as we were saying bye she put her arms out and so I gave her a hug. We were in an area with quite a bit of foot-traffic, so I wasn't really expecting a good k-close opportunity cuz of that and the weather. But I think I should have probably just went for it...

So yeah. What do you think? Am I high risk for LJBF? Should I call or text tomorrow afternoon and see if she needs a study break? or just wait and see what happen when we're back in town after break?

So, I was supposed to study with this girl before the exam, but she fell asleep and so I didn't see her until the test. Afterwards we chatted as walking home, but it's fucking cold outside and snowing so there was only some minor kino (her kinoing me, like slapping my arm or pushing me). She had to study for another exam so we stopped where she had to turn. I told her we should hang out when she gets back from break, and so she said she'd call me.

Then as we were saying bye she put her arms out and so I gave her a hug. We were in an area with quite a bit of foot-traffic, so I wasn't really expecting a good k-close opportunity cuz of that and the weather. But I think I should have probably just went for it...

So yeah. What do you think? Am I high risk for LJBF? Should I call or text tomorrow afternoon and see if she needs a study break? or just wait and see what happen when we're back in town after break?

Yeah, I would have kissed her when she opened her arms for a hug. Leave it 2 days or so before trying to contact her.

Well in a couple days she's going home for a couple weeks. Should I contact her at all in that time?

I would say dont contact her at all while shes away.
And if you wanna talk to her and try to K-close again.
I think you should hang out with her like a hr or something
right before she leaves.. End it with a kiss and she will be
thinking about you the whole time shes at home

Its a good sign she dream about you man.. So my suggestions would be: Talk about it with her, the dream she is having, like this:

Oh so you really dreamed about me (forgive my bad english), She tells it again, you ask: Hmm.. so you don't mind kissing you now?

She 98% Says no! I would go for it bro..

I'm propably among the lasts that should be giving advices about K-closes but there we go.

Truth is, as well as openers, it ain't a big deal. In both it doesn't really matter what you say, because it will work anyway.

In openers, pretty much anything will start a conversation.

In K-closes: If you're sure she wants to be kissed, it doesn't have to be at all a matter of concern to you.

Its like, playing soccer, you pass the forwards, midfielders, defenders and the goalkeeper, and still worry about scoring. you score a goal with a bycicle kick, or you sit on the ball and do the goal with the butt, it will count. But if there was a previus foul it won't be good.

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I know I should've gone for it, but at the time I got thrown off becuase ended up being outside and it was fucking freezing and we were buried in our hoods and whatnot. Anyway, my question is really this: did I blow my chances by NOT kissing her a couple weeks ago?

Again, she left the next day to go home for the holidays. She should be back this next week and is supposed to call me. If she calls, I think I'm gonna have her meet me at a chill coffee/tea place that has some fair isolation, or take me shoe shopping. But in the case that she doesn't call, should I try calling her in a week or so?

But yeah, I'm mostly interested in the general question of how important it is to k-close when you first know you're good to go, especially for girls you didn't pick-up at a bar or party.

No use saying that you should have gone for the kiss bc that is in the past. What is important is what you do in the future.

You should make the effor to reach out and hang with her before she goes on break and get that kiss. If it doesnt happen (or even if it does) you want to message her over break so that you are still on her mind...but not to much so that you look needy.

For a day kiss. Get in close quarters and just make eye contact and smile. Sounds like she likes you and she will just smile back or be like "what" (playfully). You can just smile and say "ohh nothing" or say something flirty. And then just go in for the kiss. I feel like this will be much easier than you are hyping it up to be and she is prob wondering what is taking you so long.

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Again, the last encounter was RIGHT BEFORE break, and she is supposed to contact me when she gets back (which should be in the next couple/few days). So yeah, haven't contacted each other over the past couple weeks. Anyways, I guess it isn't probably a huge deal that I didn't do it at my first clear opportunity, but I do wonder whether doing so made her think I wasn't interested. Whatever, I'll just wait and see if she contacts me this week.

I think it is a good idea you did not contact her over break. Whenever guys I've hooked up with/am interested in at school text me over break I think it's super odd...it's like, you're 1000 miles away from me right now, do you really not have any friends you'd rather be hanging out with than texting me?

Honestly if she doesn't call you in the first week that you're back she probably doesn't want to see you, no offense. Unless she is REALLY busy. So I guess you could try calling her after a week or so if she doesn't call you but it's not promising that it would yield any benefits for you.

Hope that helps.

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Remember that the Kiss should never be a big thing. You shouldn't really think of it as 'going for the kiss' - it should be the natural step in the progression of kino. So many AFC's make the kiss this big thing and it tends to come out of the blue for the girl. A good kiss would be natural and normal and in the moment. It won't be in the moment unless the moment is right for it.

Kino escalation until she's giving you the doggy dinnerbowl look, then just kiss her.

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